Profile of a Cuckoldress

Written from a woman's perspective, this article from the now inactive 'This Wife's Turn' blog features such candor as challenges her sisters to to find such honesty regarding their thoughts and desires.

With a strong finish, this article, 'The Profile of a Cuckoldress' admonishes us to be true to ourselves as a means of maturing and actualizing our selves.

BRAVO!
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So maybe you are at least just the teansy bit interested in this lifestyle, but just can’t shake the idea that a good and proper woman, or wife, or mother should not act on that curiosity, or even consider it.

So I want to tell you about the women who do consider the thoughts, the daydreams, and the fantasies.  The women who embrace the freedom and act on those thoughts.

I’ll start with me.

I’m a fairly curvy woman, I was built to pleasure a man. I love to know that he is hot with desire for me and my curvy parts.  I love to see and feel the physical response of  a certain body part only he has and knowing that I was able to do that to him.  Something magical happens inside me when I know that I am the object of a man’s desires.  Even if that desire is never physically realized, it is a HUGE aphrodisiac.

I love to be touched and rubbed by my partner, to feel his strong, rough, and yet soft hands on my smooth skin.  My breasts are sensitive, one of my erogenous zones. It tingles when my nipples get hard, the tingling drives me wild, makes me warm, and lustful. Sometimes in the throws of passion, if they aren’t getting enough attention, I’ll rub and stimulate them myself. I’ve been called a touchy-feely type of girl many times.
I love sex, all parts of sex; the flirting, build-up, and anticipation, the kissing, teasing, and foreplay, the penetration, being filled up, and the building of the orgasm.

How does that sound?  Does that sound too far off a ‘normal’ woman?  Does that sound so different than you?

But wait, that’s not all!!!!!

As much as I would like to say that I am a 24 hour, 7 day a week sex goddess who spends 100% of my time doing and thinking about sexual things, life does interrupt and it must be lived.  I am a regular woman, a wife, a mother, and part of a regular family.

We could be any family that you meet.  We could be your next door neighbors, the family seated next to you at church, or another family on your child’s soccer team.  I could be that new mommy at the playgroup, I could be your best customer at your last Pampered Chef party, or maybe I started the scrapbook club you so look forward to each month.  We have our jobs, friends, and responsibilities that can’t be neglected just because we want to enjoy our extra sexual fun.

Enough about me, so now what about you?  Think you might fit the profile of a Cuckoldress?

Angela Lewis, PhD, in her book “My Other Self” says yes you do!  Well, okay, maybe not you specifically, but she does say that any ‘normal’ woman could be a cuckoldress.  Her research and observations has led to some conclusions that may surprise many people.
Her full survey results can be seen from the link below, and I’ll list the high points below:

Survey Results
According to the survey, the definition of a ‘Typical” Cuckoldress:

• Well-educated
• White
• In her thirties
• In her first marriage and has been in it for at least 11 years
• Dominant in her relationship, but submissive with her lovers.
• No preference in race, but does consider penis size when considering lovers
• Still has sex with her husband.
• Separates love from sexual desire.
• Discrete about her extra-sexual fun

Some of the reasons women gave for choosing this lifestyle:

• Husband cannot sexually satisfy me
• I have a high sex drive
• I had a crush that I wanted to explore
• My husband worships and adores me and has given me the gift of having all the sex and pleasure that I deserve
• My husband is an alpha male in his life, but he willingly submits to me sexually and I love to see him lose control
•  Discovered husband is aroused by this fantasy and I enjoy the power and control

I was surprised by the lack of rules for some couples.  Here are the activities where most said they have no rules and it depends on the situation:

• Husband’s allowed participation
• Condom use – really surprising and scary to me!!!

Finally, most have agreed that cuckolding has strengthened their relationships.

I’m not trying to convince you to live this lifestyle.  It is not for everyone and should not be entered into lightly.  I want you to know that you are not some hussy or something sleazy because these thoughts are in your imagination or because you want to do this.  Don’t let this society or culture tell you want a proper wife should do. 

But if it is fear that is keeping you from doing this, then find ways to manage it.  A little fear is a good thing.  It helps us to pay attention and to consider all the costs and everything that could be changed.  But too much fear is a bad thing.  If it keeps you from being who you want to be, then talk about it with your partner.  Find baby steps that can help you overcome and manage those fears.

You have your own dreams and desires.

You shouldn’t live in the shadow of your own desires forever. You have to take that chance and make your life reflect who you really are.
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