I Cheated And It Turned My Husband On

Recent generations have seen relationships undergo genuine metamorphosis.This hasn't always been easy. But increasingly it seems true for our time that alternative models can and often do work.

In this Huffington Post re-post, writer Michele Zipp speaks about her affair with another man, and the fact that her husband was also aroused by her infidelity.
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We hear about people getting turned on by weird things all the time. There are some women who get all hot and bothered when their husband cooks, and others... get excited when they learn their partner is having an affair. Hold the phone. What?!?

Marianne* is a mom of two who has been married to Joseph* for just under 10 years. Things took some sort of turn in her marriage last year when she acted out on a fantasy to have sex with a guy who has been flirting with her for some time now. He's a bartender -- how cliché, she says. She told her husband about the affair and instead of wanting a divorce, he wants her more. It turned him on. Let's let Marianne tell us more.

I feel like the luckiest woman in the history of the world. I cheated. I got my rocks off with some guy. It was fun and exciting and bad and naughty and did I mention exciting? But I didn't want to leave my husband. I just wanted some fling. Something to satisfy these intense sexual urges I was having and wasn't getting fulfilled at home. I acted on it, told my husband, and he not only forgave me but wanted to know details. It turned him on.

Maybe I should be worried but I'm not. Well, not really.

This fling I had with Jake*, the bartender at the local pub I won't dare step foot into again, was a long time coming. He has always flirted with me even when I was there with Joseph. Joseph and I had been very distant for many months when I was on a rare kid- and husband-free night out and Jake started flirting. I flirted back in a harmless way like I usually did but this time I also gave him my number. He called the next day. We made plans. We went to a hotel. Numerous times. Once a week for about two months. It got intense. I got scared. I wanted to have sex with my husband, not Jake. So I broke it off and told Joseph.

He wasn't happy. He felt sad and hurt and sorry he wasn't satisfying me. I told him how it made me realize so much and I felt awful. "No, you didn't," he said. "And that's okay." I was shocked. Joseph understood why I did it. He didn't want a divorce. He wanted me to tell him the best parts of having sex with someone else so he could please me in the same ways. It was weird at first, but I ended up telling him, little by little, more and more details were revealed. And now almost a year later, our sex life is better than it's ever been. We overcame my affair and sometimes Joseph even asks me to recount something from that time because it turns him on.

Strange? Maybe. But it works for us. And we're happier than ever.

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* Names have been changed.

If you have a story to add, submit it! Share your experience with others.

Profile of a Cuckoldress

Written from a woman's perspective, this article from the now inactive 'This Wife's Turn' blog features such candor as challenges her sisters to to find such honesty regarding their thoughts and desires.

With a strong finish, this article, 'The Profile of a Cuckoldress' admonishes us to be true to ourselves as a means of maturing and actualizing our selves.

BRAVO!
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So maybe you are at least just the teansy bit interested in this lifestyle, but just can’t shake the idea that a good and proper woman, or wife, or mother should not act on that curiosity, or even consider it.

So I want to tell you about the women who do consider the thoughts, the daydreams, and the fantasies.  The women who embrace the freedom and act on those thoughts.

I’ll start with me.

I’m a fairly curvy woman, I was built to pleasure a man. I love to know that he is hot with desire for me and my curvy parts.  I love to see and feel the physical response of  a certain body part only he has and knowing that I was able to do that to him.  Something magical happens inside me when I know that I am the object of a man’s desires.  Even if that desire is never physically realized, it is a HUGE aphrodisiac.

I love to be touched and rubbed by my partner, to feel his strong, rough, and yet soft hands on my smooth skin.  My breasts are sensitive, one of my erogenous zones. It tingles when my nipples get hard, the tingling drives me wild, makes me warm, and lustful. Sometimes in the throws of passion, if they aren’t getting enough attention, I’ll rub and stimulate them myself. I’ve been called a touchy-feely type of girl many times.
I love sex, all parts of sex; the flirting, build-up, and anticipation, the kissing, teasing, and foreplay, the penetration, being filled up, and the building of the orgasm.

How does that sound?  Does that sound too far off a ‘normal’ woman?  Does that sound so different than you?

But wait, that’s not all!!!!!

As much as I would like to say that I am a 24 hour, 7 day a week sex goddess who spends 100% of my time doing and thinking about sexual things, life does interrupt and it must be lived.  I am a regular woman, a wife, a mother, and part of a regular family.

We could be any family that you meet.  We could be your next door neighbors, the family seated next to you at church, or another family on your child’s soccer team.  I could be that new mommy at the playgroup, I could be your best customer at your last Pampered Chef party, or maybe I started the scrapbook club you so look forward to each month.  We have our jobs, friends, and responsibilities that can’t be neglected just because we want to enjoy our extra sexual fun.

Enough about me, so now what about you?  Think you might fit the profile of a Cuckoldress?

Angela Lewis, PhD, in her book “My Other Self” says yes you do!  Well, okay, maybe not you specifically, but she does say that any ‘normal’ woman could be a cuckoldress.  Her research and observations has led to some conclusions that may surprise many people.
Her full survey results can be seen from the link below, and I’ll list the high points below:

Survey Results
According to the survey, the definition of a ‘Typical” Cuckoldress:

• Well-educated
• White
• In her thirties
• In her first marriage and has been in it for at least 11 years
• Dominant in her relationship, but submissive with her lovers.
• No preference in race, but does consider penis size when considering lovers
• Still has sex with her husband.
• Separates love from sexual desire.
• Discrete about her extra-sexual fun

Some of the reasons women gave for choosing this lifestyle:

• Husband cannot sexually satisfy me
• I have a high sex drive
• I had a crush that I wanted to explore
• My husband worships and adores me and has given me the gift of having all the sex and pleasure that I deserve
• My husband is an alpha male in his life, but he willingly submits to me sexually and I love to see him lose control
•  Discovered husband is aroused by this fantasy and I enjoy the power and control

I was surprised by the lack of rules for some couples.  Here are the activities where most said they have no rules and it depends on the situation:

• Husband’s allowed participation
• Condom use – really surprising and scary to me!!!

Finally, most have agreed that cuckolding has strengthened their relationships.

I’m not trying to convince you to live this lifestyle.  It is not for everyone and should not be entered into lightly.  I want you to know that you are not some hussy or something sleazy because these thoughts are in your imagination or because you want to do this.  Don’t let this society or culture tell you want a proper wife should do. 

But if it is fear that is keeping you from doing this, then find ways to manage it.  A little fear is a good thing.  It helps us to pay attention and to consider all the costs and everything that could be changed.  But too much fear is a bad thing.  If it keeps you from being who you want to be, then talk about it with your partner.  Find baby steps that can help you overcome and manage those fears.

You have your own dreams and desires.

You shouldn’t live in the shadow of your own desires forever. You have to take that chance and make your life reflect who you really are.
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Internet Porn Is Fascinating ... Read On!

Do we look? Of course we do! When she meets a man, the first thing a woman notices are his looks. And it is said that as many as one woman in six is addicted to some form of porn. That's right. One in six.

Lest it be protested that such statistical inventions arise from aging hippies nostalgic for Woodstock era 'free love,' know that these figures were prepared from a survey published by Today's Christian Women. If anything, these are conservative numbers. Of course that reports on women who struggle with pornography. But what of more casual users?

In 2007, the Sydney Morning Herald reported that Australians were visiting pornographic websites including sexually explicit dating websites in record numbers. Of those, one in three were women.

Imagine that this one woman is your wife ...

When you wake up, she is gone!

Night after night after night, she is up late...

Reading and watching.

And what she reads and sees makes her think and think and think and think.

It arouses her. She becomes wet...sometimes very wet. It is pleasant, pleasant enough to make her want more. That pleasure convinces her of Nature's intention for her. Convinced of that, she learns to surrender to her thoughts. She begins uncontrollable fantasizing every day. 

Two nights ago, you had a huge fight over it. She cried and swore she’d quit. Now you awake at 2 am and she’s gone! Silently you walk to the computer room.

She’s totally fixated and oblivious to your approach. This is what you see. Now you KNOW. She's hooked. Don’t you just hate it? Don’t you just love it? Isn’t it the most inexplicable thing you’ve ever met?

Watching Internet Porn is Fascinating. Isn't It...

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If you are a wife or woman with a story, you are encouraged to post a few lines here. 

Helpless, Erotic Compulsion

Cuckoldry is associated with feelings of shame, weakness, helplessness, trepidation, insecurity and fear. Yet guilt-fueled arousal and erotic excitement also reach exponential intensity. Men have reported spontaneous orgasms, and women have reported becoming soaked – instantly, and that merely from discussing this with her or his spouse. If Nature intends for this phenomena to lead to sexual activity, a more effective mechanism could hardly be imagined.

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In many marriages a time comes when secret yearnings cannot be repressed or ignored. Like so many ocean waves, secret thoughts or desires surface repeatedly. Time and again they are pushed back down inside from where they came. We do so out of fear of what might be – if the truth were told.

But for some, this strategy fails. It fails because no less than ocean waves that recede after each wave, those desires return with redoubled force. It may be a week or years, but that desire will return. Each time, it gathers more strength. Each time, the shock of it lessens, and the appeal of it increases. These desires seem more natural and less objectionable. With each season, these desires reward the woman or man in question with greater pleasure.

Whether you resist the cuckold fetish THIS time is irrelevant. That desire will return. It will come with renewed urgency. The naturalness, beauty, pleasure, power and eroticism will make it harder to resist. The goodness, rightness and pleasure it makes you feel erodes the ability to resist. And each time, those qualities are more apparent to us. So if not this time, then the next time, and if not then, it will be the time after that.

The sense that this is SUPPOSED to be will only grow. And there is no escaping it.

Once your wife discovers the pleasures of a fantasy lover, once this desire becomes the script that controls and drives her response, she isn’t going to change. Once your husband acquires a taste for cuckoldry, once he decides that he loves it, that’s it! It’s over.

There’s really very little you or anyone else can do to save him. 

So instead, we choose to hide these thoughts; only allowing ourselves to ponder them during moments of extreme arousal brought on by sexual fantasies of the most perverse nature. But, once in while, someone in a marriage will break the normal pattern and choose to admit the secret lusts of their heart.

And sometimes, they find that their spouse is eager finally to act upon them.
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Have you wanted that conversation with your spouse? Have you tried to host it? How did it go?

Noises from the Apartment Next Door

This beautifully woven and naturally told story was submitted by email to the Modern Directions website, where it was edited and published for the world. Enjoy, but also offer your own comments!
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"Each time we heard them it was a painful remainder for me, and especially my wife, that our bedroom life was not what it used to be."

My wife and I had been listening to the guy next door banging his girlfriends for several months.

I don't want to even describe the noises they made, except they were loud, especially when they came.

There was no sleeping until it was over, which was generally very late.

One night after it had started up, I asked my wife if she ever wished if she was getting banged like that.

Without directly answering, she said that he must be good, the girls keep coming back.

As we listened to the girl get to a noisy climax I said to my wife that maybe she should ask him how he does it, and then she teasingly added, "Or get him to demonstrate."
" I said, 'Admit it, you would like to know what it would be like with him ' "
   
Later that night we heard it start up again. She took hold of my penis and asked if I would be jealous if I knew that was her over there.

I said, "Maybe a little, but you wouldn't have to listen to that every night and be jealous of those girls."

She said, "But then you would be jealous."

I tried to think of my wife over there getting banged and making the noises we were hearing. I started to get an erection.  She felt it. "What are you thinking about?"

"What it would be like knowing it was you over there and not one of those girls."

"Would that turn you on?"

She could feel my answer in her hand.

She said, "We used to do it most every night, if you'll remember."

I didn't need to be reminded.

For the next week or so I thought about it.

I knew when he got home from work, so made it a point to meet him outside his door.

Strangely, although we lived next to each other, we had never talked.

I discovered pretty quick that the guy was a buff, full-of-himself type -- the kind of guy that probably spent hours every week in a gym.

After a bit of chit-chat I said, "The walls are very thin; my wife is jealous of your lovemaking."

"Sorry, you can hear a clock ticking through these walls. The idiot architect put the bedrooms right next to each other."

 As we continued talking he said he needed the sex but after a month or so the girls wanted to get serious.

I said, "And I guess you don't."

"Hell no, I've been down that road and I'm still paying for it; every fucking month I pay for it."

He motioned to his waist and asked if my wife was the one with the very long brunette hair.

I decided that this guy was no threat to our relationship. I boldly said, "Tell her you love her hair and she's yours for the night, or at least a couple hours."

It was a lame comment to offer my wife to him for sex, but right then it was the best I could do. Plus, openly giving another man permission to fuck my wife was something I couldn't take back.

He waited for me to turn it into a joke or add some qualifications. I didn't. "You serious?"

"Just to borrow, and you can make all the noise you want."

He considered it. "If you are serious, have her come over about 7:00 tonight and we'll get to know each other."

We went into our respective apartments and when my wife got home I said, "I have a date for you with the guy next door."

She said, "What do you mean, a date?"

"So he can get to know each other. He's expecting you in an hour."

"For what?"

"Talking, and whatever else. And you can make all the noise you want."
" She narrowed her eyes, 'You really would like to listen wouldn't you?' "
   
I said, "We've been listening long enough; maybe it's time for you to be part of the action."

 "And you want me, your wife, to be part of his action?"

"And your action too. Admit it, you've been wondering what it would be like."

"What are you thinking about here -- friends-with-benefits?"

"Exactly."

"And you would rather hear me moaning over there than one of those girls?"

"And I think you would like to be the one doing the moaning."

After supper I had her change into a sexy dress with no bra.  I was getting turned on thinking of her going over there like that...sending a clear, "I'm available," message.

What would happen?  I had no idea.

Lest she chicken out, at 7:00 I walked her to his door, pushed the door bell and walked away.

I listened at the wall for almost an hour. I heard them talking, but they were in the living room away from the wall and I couldn't make out what they were saying.

Finally. their voices shifted to what I had learned was the bedroom and I heard giggling from my wife and I thought, I guess the talking part is over.

I heard the bed squeak several times over the next 15 minutes like they were shifting positions and apparently into making out.

Before long the familiar noises started, but this time the woman was my wife.

It went on for some time, just as it usually does with his dates.

I wanted her to enjoy it -- I wanted both of them to enjoy it.

Then I started hearing her encouraging him and it got louder until I heard the unmistakable "ahhh" from him that signaled his climax.

It was only then that I fully realized that another man -- and I didn't even remember his name -- had shot his load into my wife.

I almost shot my load hearing it.

As soon as she got back, she said, "I had to leave; he has someone coming over."

I said, "Does he have anything left for her?"

"I'm sure he does. So, I guess you could you hear it."

"Yes, but did you make it?"

"No, he said next time I could stay longer and he would see that I came -- at least once. The guy is pretty confident in his abilities."

"I figured that when I talked to him. So did you like it?"

" ' He's strong and he's big, I can see why....'  She stopped. 'Sorry. I guess I shouldn't be saying stuff like that to you.' "

There was a long pause.  He wants me to come over tomorrow night....and stay longer. 

There was an awkward moment and she lamely added that she hoped they hadn't made too much noise.

I said that I would like to hear both of them make a lot of noise.  "Tell him when he wants to borrow you to just knock on the door"

"Jez, just knock on the door!? What kind of a ...."

I interrupted, "Would your rather hear some other girl over there getting the action?"

"Okay, assuming we get this friends-with-benefits thing going, what if we still hear other girls over there."

"If you keep him satisfied he wouldn't need to look elsewhere.".

"Satisfied?  That guy does some girl every night and twice on Sunday."

"Like you said, we used to do every night -- unless you are no longer up for that much action."

She said, "Just because we don't do it that often any more doesn't mean I'm not capable of it."

"Let's see."

Later that night her cell phone rang. She started with, "Oh, hi," and ended with, "Give me a couple minutes." She looked at me.  "I'll be back in a while."

About 40 minutes later the room started to shake as his bed rocked. I heard her loudly encouraging him. (Was she trying to make me jealous?)

Then I heard the noises she makes when she's building to a climax, except much louder. I wasn't sure if this was real. Was she trying to compete with the other women, or she was trying to make me jealous?

Not too long after that I ran into him outside.  After a few awkward moments he said, "Your wife says I just have to call and she will come over."

I nodded. "What's your secret with all the women?"

He shrugged, "No secret. I'm big and I can go a long time before I come, which means they come before I do. So how often can I....?"

I said, "Whenever, and you don't have to wine and dine her like other girls. She's already married and on the pill, so you don't have to worry about any of that."

"And this is really okay with you?"

"Keep her satisfied -- more than satisfied, if you are up to it."

He considered if. "Can she come over tonight about 10?"

"I'll ask her."

At 10:00 she left for his place.

At 10:45 the room was shaking and I heard the sounds of my wife heading toward a climax.

Then I heard her loudly climax, and then him.

And then so did I.

At 11:35 I heard the shower running.

At 11:50 she was in bed beside me. She said, "I can see why those women keep coming back."

By midnight she was asleep.

Maybe now my wife won't have to listen to some other girl getting off every night.

And I won't have to hear her subtle complaints about our sex life.

Seems like a good deal all the way around.
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This wonderful, sensitive story is a superb blend of joy, giving, sensibility and eroticism. It is true that most couples require more time before coming to this point. But this does not diminish from the goodness, desirability or rightfulness of their experience in the least.

If you are a woman, how would you react to hearing these these cries of pleasure, night after night? If you are a man, would you find courage to make the bold step this man did?

Wanting It

With blatantly honest prose, rougedmount shows us yet again that one's husband may not  be the answer to a woman's erotic prayers.

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i’m disappointed with every single man i encounter for the simple fact, that he isn’t you. you make me wet to the point of saturation, simply from being in my presence. wet enough to smell. and i get so distracted from being near you that i find normal functioning skills like attention to detail, listening, walking…all become monumentally effortful as i struggle to think of anything besides your beautifully arching cock.

i want your snarling mouth to bite my lips as you gently tease my clit with your fingers making me melt all over your hands. the combination of forced gentleness is an aphrodisiac to my senses. i push and you remain firm, i pull you and you’re inflexible. you take without demanding and you carefully measure my struggle until i give in, give up and simply let you do as you want with me. unless i pull away and then you let me go. you know i can’t not touch you.

touching you is everything. your muscles are ripely firm. taunt. your body is fuel to my fire. your smooth head and facial stubble make me want to caress and rub you imagining your head between my thighs. you know it. i can see it in the smile. climbing onto you. Impaling myself, taking you deep inside of me so you can make me cum for you. so i can cream all over your shaft and balls as you ride my orgasm before you give me your own. you want me as much as i want you. it vibrates in the air between us. current. sexual attraction. lust.

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Human Rights and our Human Sexuality

When explanations and the whining end, this remains: as traditional marriage makes room

for various, alternative, social options, cuckoldry moves toward the mainstream. 

Much has been and will be said about this. One of the finest observations comes from a post published by the respected journal, 'Psychology Today.' Following his article, 'Kinky Cuckolding Fetish Goes Mainstream,' David J. Ley, Ph.D. has this reply to a comment:

'...I believe these lifestyles are unfairly stigmatized, and represent very interesting and informative "living laboratories" about sexuality and relationships...each couple and person should have the opportunity to negotiate their sexuality as they see fit (within bounds of consent and law), without the pressure of bias and stigma.'

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For all who desire this, Cuckoldrix Awakening couldn't agree more. Well done, Dr. Ley!

That Damning, Yet Holy, Defining Moment...

Dan Savage' earlier referenced 'Delving Into the Cuckold Fetish' article was picked up by the Detroit Metro Times. When that article surfaces, I take note of the reader comments! This reply to Dan's column in the DMT shows why. 

After a rocky start, this 'wife caught cheating' story turns and goes totally right! The telling of it shows that her husband was a goner from the start. Lightly edited for easier reading.
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I have been married for 5 years. I caught her cheating early on .. which I quickly broke up and it almost ended our relationship. We worked it out. BUT...

People talk about life's 'defining moments.' This wife is having one at
this instant. Her husband too. How can it ever be the same after this?

What I saw in those 10 seconds walking in on them... slowed down in my head over the next few months.

When I opened the door she was riding his huge dick.... fucking the holy shit out of him... 

When I came in, I saw her from her ass and back angle. The dick she was fucking was simply huge. And yet she took all of him. 

I Remember ... 

'...I remember her bouncing hard!'
'... Her back ... hair... ass ...  sweated so profusely .... it honestly looked as if someone poured a glass of water down her back....'
'... the bed was soaked.'
'... her screaming "fuck me!"'' 
... MY WIFE... riding a dick.... talking dirty....in my bed.'

Thoughts that Hound You ... 

'I would think about that day in and day out... I jacked off to that scene probably 100 times. I would jack off at work, jack off while she slept next to me, jack off in the shower .... my wife ... that dick ... my bed...'

'We'd have sex... That image would come to mind and BANG .... I was done! I couldn't hold it after remembering that .... Not even for 20 seconds ....

'I had to tell her that I wasn't upset with her... that I wanted her to continue fucking men... Finally I talked her into letting me watch one time. One time turned into weekly planning. Soon she started planning on her own. I fell in love with humiliation and chastity. She rather took over the Dominant role.'

'My question is, she now told me she wants me to watch her with my co-workers and my closest friends...Her desire to humiliate me is strong and I enjoy it. But is this too far?'

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Some Observations ... 

Sure, the sex that he saw was very intense; but so was his reaction to what he saw. And that reaction was sustained long term.

It wasn't just the shock of his wife with another man. It was that the sex itself was so shockingly powerful, shockingly sexual, and above all, so shockingly different.

For the first time, he got to see his wife having sex from a third person perspective. And what he saw was sex that was excruciatingly sexual and unimaginably beautiful.

The intensity of it and her complete abandonment to his huge penis, was shocking. She more than succumbed; she surrendered completely. She ravished herself on his huge endowment.

And she did this early in their marriage.

Cuckold's Journey Begins...

That's telling in itself. But see what it did for this husband! He ended their session very quickly, yes, but nothing about this event ended there.

Oh no, that was only the beginning.

Month after month after month, he 'lived in the moment' of what he saw! He could not stop it. He could not escape it. He could not ignore it. He could not curb it. He could not contain it in some corner of his mind.

Instead, the power and intensity of that moment worked in him. It did not diminish in strength but grew and increasingly controlled him. It became irresistible.

Most astonishing of all is the WAY this changed his thinking, wants, desires and needs!

It Was the Defining Moment...

Years later, he recalls and describes that instant with the same, vivid clarity as when he opened the door and saw it for the first time. Every minute detail burned into his memory indelibly.

Everything. Changed. Forever.

This was a defining moment. The instant he saw his bride plunge herself on that huge penis, it was a 'done deal.' Now it was just a matter of time and processing.

Returning him to that same scene day in and day out, his own mind continually made him a voyeur to his own cuckolding!

What he first saw as profane act very quickly became a holy ritual, one that commanded and elicited his helpless arousal and acknowledgment, and utterly worshipful surrender.

The Strangest Thing...

That scene affected his sex life with his wife. It did not make him impotent but hyper-sexual. It demanded and received his unqualified and urgent participation. It redefined his psycho-sexual response.

He admits that he could not help ejaculating prematurely. It dominated his imagination, MAKING him see and relive that scene over and over and over again endlessly. It made him fantasize incessantly, aroused him continuously, excited him uncontrollably and DROVE him to masturbate with furious compulsively.

It happened morning, noon and night, day after day, week, after week, month after month. His wife, that penis, his bed. He was helpless to stop it or even to try to resist it. What he saw refused to be denied. It MADE him ADMIT and SUBMIT to cuckold desire.

Whatever else he MIGHT have expected, it wasn't this: that the ultimate and irresistibly compelling aphrodisiac would be none other than his wife's impalement on a huge penis!

Nature's Curious Ways...

Yet in the end, he had no choice.

Fantasizing uncontrollably, with arousal raging every waking hour, his response was beyond his control. After months and months of it, he was done. He had no fight left in him. He found that he could not live as he was. Helpless to resist, with no end in sight, he was coerced to admit that he was beaten. How else could he deal with it? 

Continuous, helpless arousal drew him into the passion and sensuality of his wife and her lover. It forced the honesty from him. It forced him to speak the truth. He had no choice. He as much as his wife acknowledged the power of the situation, and of that enormous penis -- not only over her, but over his ability to resist the meaning and image of what he saw! In the end, it reduced them both. In the end, it seduced them both.

'I had to tell her that I wasn't upset with her...that I wanted her to continue fucking men.'

What he first ended quickly become irresistible. He not only consents, he craves that other men serve his wife. He not only needs it, he ASKS his wife to continue sexing other men. Clearly, she wasn't the only one seduced. The huge penis that seduced and mastered his wife equally reduced and mastered him!

And it took all of 10 seconds.

The rest was just time and processing.

Another Beguiling Point...

Forgiving his wife's 'infidelity' was remarkable. His admission that it powerfully aroused him was right, good and courageous. But another intriguing matter needs exploration.

Her response to that huge penis brought him into a state of near constant arousal. The very extremity and constancy of his arousal became his tacit approval of her dalliances.

If her impalement on that huge penis made HIS arousal rage, on what ground can he deny her the same? He is helpless to resist the eroticism of that moment. If he takes extreme pleasure in seeing it, how can he deny HER right to the same extreme, erotic pleasure?

His arousal not only effectively quashed his capacity for effective resistance; it also took away any argument he might otherwise make against it!

So on one hand, his arousal devastated his ability to resist his cuckolding; on the other hand, it PREPARED him to first accept, and then DEMANDED that he crave it.

Ultimately, his arousal WAS his consent.

Intention and Design...

For this husband, the sheer beauty, power and sensuality of his wife and lover's indulgence was profoundly human.

'Riding his huge dick...
'fucking the holy shit of him,
'sweating profusely...
'as if someone poured a glass of water down her back...
'the bed was soaked, her screaming 'fuck me!'

He doesn’t say so, but what follows strongly implies that in those few seconds, he knew intuitively and for the first time, he was seeing sex as sex truly is supposed to be, sex as Nature intends sex to be.

And if that is true, HOW can it be wrong to say so?

Some men are seduced and tormented by the pleasures of cuckoldry in months in advance. This man walked into the experience in an instant of time. Yet he was no passive observer. In months of constant arousal, uncontrollable fantasies, continual masturbation, and arousal heightened as never before, he participated fully in his own cuckolding.

If some men achieve this pinnacle of pleasure only through cuckoldry, it is worth asking why that is so.

The Changes That Came...

She was ready for change. Did she keep sexing men after her husband walked in on them? We're not told, but it seems so. Earlier, he said:

'I had to tell her that I wasn't upset with her... that I wanted her to continue fucking men.'

Note: He’s not asking her to 'start' but to continue. Then there is this:

'Once I talked her into letting me watch one time.'

Again, it isn’t ‘DO this one time,' but let him WATCH one time. Most likely, she kept sexing men even after he saw. She was empowered to continue with our without hubby's approval! And Nature saw to it that he soon caught up. It just took him some time.

Transfer of Power...

Sharing his sexual power with this wife, the stud greatly empowered her over her husband. A one time request to watch became a weekly thing. And note: the HUSBAND who ASKED to watch, and SHE who DECIDED.

'Once she started planning on her own, I fell in love with humiliation and chastity she rather took over the dominant role...'

The strong likelihood is that she continued her personal, sexual development. She quickly widened her sexual experience and knowledge, and discovered new preferences that she would never otherwise explore.

She loved what other men taught her, and what she learned, she practiced with her husband, including humiliation and chastity.

She now wielded the sexual power in their marriage.

Returning to Intention and Design...

But there is still that question: why is it that some men achieve their pinnacle of pleasure only through cuckoldry? And the implication is absolutely fascinating! 

Note well -- at the same time SHE is gaining sexual experience, knowledge and power from well-endowed lovers, the SAME experience reduces him to chronic arousal, ceaseless masturbation and compulsive fantasies of that huge penis taking his wife!

The very thing that empowered her AT THE SAME TIME reduced him to helplessness! What readied her to dominate prepared him to submit. Again, it happened AT THE SAME TIME.

This is absolutely fascinating.
It is utterly beautiful.
It is extremely erotic.

Nature knows what it's doing.

Whatever one believes about evolutionary biology, these dynamics do work in many cases. And while funded research may not [yet] support it, such dynamics seem to exist with such regularity as to allow for this reasonable hypothesis:

Nature Intends This...

This little blog is read by people around the world. Sometimes as many as 500 visit its pages in a month. Cuckold curiosity and desire crosses many cultures and societies. Many men desire and even CRAVE to be cuckolded, even as it terrifies them. Why?

They desire cuckolding because millions of years of evolutionary biology incline them to it. Sex is vital for the survival of the species. Husbands desire it because they're supposed to desire it as part of Nature's intention to ensure the propagation of the species. 

Arousal prepares for sexual activity. Since cuckoldry so often arouses husbands suggests that the mechanism evolved to support reproductive function. But cuckold arousal in many instances induces husbands to step aside as another fulfills that function.

The question this man asked [is cuckolding with co-workers and close friends too far] may be reasonable. But there seems little chance that he escaped her wiles. His wife:

1] Loved to dominate him.
2] Strongly desired to humiliate him.
3] Had years of experience dominating him.
4] Knows how much pleasure he takes from it.

Concluding Thoughts...

While many husbands plot and scheme for years to convince their wife to take another man, some wives find themselves in the opposite role. They may desire their lover and wish they could bring their husband onboard.

If they understand the dynamics, and if they cooperate, a wife and lover can groom and shape a husband to be cuckolded. As they two work together, a husband's power is limited and his options are few.

Women gain much IF they know how to bring that desire to the surface of their husbands' consciousness. When HE desires this, the result is a win-win-win.

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Do you envy what this wife was able to do? Have you ever wanted more than your husband gives? Have you ever wondered what you're missing? Do you wish that you had the sexual power to do what she did, or that your husband would agree to this arrangement?

Whatever your thoughts on cuckoldry, do you feel that this is what sex is supposed to be? Can you be satisfied with less and not resent it at all? Did this post arouse you enough to make you wet? How do you think your husband would react to this article if he saw it?

Have you ever 'tested the waters' with him in any way? If so, how did this go? Were you ever pleased by attention from another man? If your husband knew, how did he react

Has your wife ever cuckolded you? Do you wish she would? Did you ever share this with her? Would you show her this post? Do you wish you could share it with her? If your wife read this post, how do you think that she would react? If your wife had this experience, how would you react? Could you do 'better' than this man? Or are you in a situation now?
 

Comments and discussion are welcomed.  
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