Men who Want their Wives to Experience Well-Endowed Men, One Woman's Perspective

Yesterday's repost from 'Hottie' and Steve now defunct LSP blog brought heavy responses. One was a reply from 'rougedmount.' She is remarkable for many reasons. Among these are a quick mind, brilliant pen, and a refusal to compromise truth as she sees it.

Rougedmount is always refreshing.

Sadly, rougedmount answers this not from the perspective of her husband, but explains rather why some husbands would want this for their wife. That said, she makes her case with remarkable force. 

Readers are welcome to submit comments on insights and experiences for inclusion on this page. No personal attacks are permitted. This is a safe place.
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Why does my husband want me to have “big cock sex?”

How about because he isn't a sexually selfish asshole who actually puts her sexual needs above his own need to claim sexual ownership of another person?

Why does my husband want me to have “big cock sex?”

How about because he is sexually aroused from the idea of it…insert for whatever freaking reason you want “here”.

Why does my husband want me to have “big cock sex?”

Because he values a healthy communication and physical relationship with a partner instead of hiding his true desires behind a façade of anger and resentment that he wears like a chastity belt inside the marriage bed?

It’s like saying, “Why does my husband want me to have sex with another woman?”

Well, no matter how much a man may want this, it’s not going to happen unless the WOMAN wants it. “Why does my husband want me to wear lingerie and stockings?” A woman won’t do it if it makes her feel like a whore, no matter how much her spouse may want it.

Why does my husband want me to have “big cock sex?”

How about because she fucking DESERVES to be happy in one teeny tiny aspect of her life when she sacrifices every. Single. Fucking. Thing. to make sure the entire family unit functions and his career succeeds and the bills are paid on time and the dog is walked and he has clean socks.

Why does my husband want me to have “big cock sex?”

Because it’s as different as having sex with a woman or masturbation…it’s just what it is! Nothing more, nothing less.

Sorry for the bit of a rant but I am suffering from severe sexual deprivation…but some men might notice that after 10-15-20 years of marriage, their wives “may” not be sexually satisfied and finally seek a solution for it while still staying married, and so they want her to have “big cock sex”.
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Why Does My Husband Want Me to Have Big Cock Sex?

Nothing is on the internet permanently. Sadly, the blog from which today's article is taken exists no longer. But here and there, a few posts were saved and submitted by other parties. Written by 'Hottie' and her husband, Steve, today's post is one such offering. All the text is original, but bold, red text was added for emphasis.
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by 'Hottie'

From Insecurity and Jealousy to Acceptance

'When my husband first revealed that he fantasized about wanting to watch me having sex with a well-endowed man, I was quite naturally surprised by his admission.  Prior to his small penis acceptance, Steve was somewhat insecure and jealous, and then, when he accepted his smallness, it’s as if a new “enlightened” Steve emerged from his shell. It took me awhile to adjust to this sudden and complete change in him.  But, I love the “new” Steve.'

Small-Endowed Men Especially Susceptible!

'I knew some men fantasized about wanting to watch their wives with other men, but one of the things that has become abundantly clear and fascinates me to no end, is just how many small-endowed men crave this same fantasy. And, they don’t just want to watch their wives having sex with another man; they want the other man to be supremely more endowed and even better in bed. The fascinating question that must be asked is why do so many small-endowed men harbor this fantasy? 

Why Do They Want It?

Many men on this blog, including Steve, have expressed this desire, but what we haven’t delved into was the why?  What drives and motivates them to crave this so much?'

'Because we have a good relationship, we have explored this topic together and had many enlightening conversations about it. I have to confess, I do love talking about this subject.  We both know it turns Steve on, but we wanted to know why it’s such a turn on for him.  As a result, we have developed a hypothesis as to why the idea is so appealing and exciting for him.  We believe it’s a combination of both a natural and biological reaction.  Let me explain.'

Instinctively Knows We Deserve More

'Steve already knows he has a small penis and accepts it. I know he has a small penis, but when I remind him of that fact, it really, really turns him on. As he has explained previously, it’s as if he knows instinctively that I deserve a man who has a more satisfactory cock size.  Some women on the blog have admitted that their husbands are too small to satisfy them, but their previous lovers, and now their larger dildos provide what their husbands can’t. For these couples, they have discovered that size does matter.

He Needs This

While our relationship is different in that Steve can satisfy me even with his very small penis, his internal truth is that he believes I could be even better satisfied by a larger male, who could offer me what he can’t.  We both believe his reaction is quite natural.'

'We have also discussed several articles and books on a wide variety of sexual topics.  Sexual selection and how we evolved as humans to live in groups was extremely interesting. We have also discussed Dr. David Ley’s book, “Insatiable Wives” which is excellent and describes the biology of women and their sexual needs.

Nature Intends It

Dr. Ley, also has a blog, “Why Women Stray,” where he also addressed the issue of sperm competition as follows:  “As Christopher Ryan, author Terry Gould, and researchers Baker and Bellis have suggested, there is a biological response playing out here, that affects a male sexual drive.  After watching their wife with another man, the husband is prompted biologically to have longer, more vigorous sex, has a shorter refractory period between erections, ejaculates harder, and his ejaculate contains more sperm.  Nearly every couple I interviewed told me that after an episode of the wife having sex with another man, the couple felt like they were “in heat.”'

He Can't Help It!

'What they described is exactly what happens to Steve every single time I use a dildo to pleasure myself. It may not be another man, but his strong reaction to it is almost identical and unbelievable. Even at the mere site of my dildo, Steve’s penis goes from 0 to 4 throbbing inches in a heartbeat. So is his response a biological reaction? We believe it may very well be both natural and biological, and this may explain why he craves it so much…he simply can’t help it.'

'Of course, others may feel it isn’t natural or biological at all, but whatever it is, this craving lies at the very heart of the small penis teasing, cock comparisons and fantasy cuckolding that so many small endowed men crave as well. Honestly, I didn’t get it at first.  I mean, why would a man want his partner to compare his underdeveloped penis with that of another male who is substantially more endowed? Wouldn’t he be ashamed, embarrassed or even humiliated? 

The Bigger the Stud, The Better Hubby Likes It

Surprisingly, the answer is quite the contrary for small endowed men; he usually becomes incredibly aroused. What’s even more fascinating is, the greater the size disparity between your husband and the male you are comparing him to, the more aroused he becomes, which I believe, cements the notion (in his mind) that you need and deserve more cock than he has.'

'Those of you who have been following this blog for any length of time know that I love my husband’s small 4” penis and am quite satisfied by it.  But, have I been fascinated by the descriptions women have provided on this blog as far as the advantages of big cock sex?  Yes, which is why I posed the recent question on the blog, “What am I missing?”  My hubby and I both find it fascinating.   Will I ever try a large one knowing it would turn my husband on if I did?  No, because I would never risk our relationship to try it, and we are both very comfortable with that decision.   It’s intriguing and fascinating, but I would never try it.  But, because I was curious, I encouraged my hubby to order his “Big Boy Cock” extension, to see what that feels like.  Granted, it wasn’t the real thing, but I have to admit I really enjoy it.  And of course, Steve really, really liked it too!'   :)

'To summarize, we do feel there is something very natural and/or biological that explains Steve’s strong reason for wanting this, but that may not be the case for you, or you may attribute your desire to something entirely different. So, how do the rest of you feel?  Do you believe the reason why smaller men crave this fantasy is a natural and/or biological response?  Or, do you attribute it to something else entirely. We’re sure others who peruse this blog will be curious to read your comments.'

Bigger WAS Better ...

This submission is from a woman whose husband's long desire for his wife to cuckold him finally comes to fruition. He was right in saying that the experience would be very good. That became the issue.

From 'B:'

'I did it! I had sex with another man and his wife, while my husband watched. I did it and it was great.'

'I was nervous, especially because the other guy's wife was there and she was joining in. But the two of them made a GREAT team! His creativity, passion, technique, staying power, endowment, thrill of the experience itself-all made it very, very good.'

'He was big and hard and oh my - so confident! He did not have any hesitation or worry about what to do.

He just took me in his arms like we had made love many times before and started on me like I was the only woman on earth. He started slowly and gave me time to accomodate his large cock. Then he got serious. He  also used his mouth both hands on me while also using his cock on me. She was also using her hands and her mouth on me at the same time. It was just sensory overload and I lost control of my body.'

'The guy was really, really good (WOW! SWEET BABY!) in bed! In no time flat, he had me bucking and squealing like my hubby never has and [sadly] probably never will. That was the problem. I got too expressive compared to what I normally do with my hubby. But I couldn't help it! Anyway, this made my hubby mad and later he told me we would never do it again.'

'I was really reluctant to do this in the first place. But he just had this fantasy about how great it would be to see me brought off by another guy. I resisted hard. But he begged me and pleaded with me to do this for such a long time! Finally, I gave in and did it for him, because I wanted him to be happy.'

'Originally, the agreement was that after he watched me getting it, he would do both us women. Then when he actually saw it happening he got jealous because he had never seen me act like that or get so noisy with him. Maybe if he had gone first, it would have been different. I wish it was. Straight sex with him is pretty boring now. And even though I try to hide it, I think he knows this.'

'So even though her man took me, and even though she is much more beautiful than I am (she is gorgeous), my hubby refused to take her. He was intimidated -- by that, I mean more than a little intimidated -- by the other guy's performance, the size of his equipment, and how he took complete control of me. I think he lost his confidence about doing the other guy's woman and his ability to satisfy her. And from my experience, I'd have to say that he would probably be right.'

'So even though her man took me, and even though she is much more beautiful than I am, my hubby refused to take her. He had me get dressed and we left. The other couple was not happy since she did not get hers so to speak. But this hurts me also because I really miss it and now I just ache for it.'
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This wife admits sadly that likely, she will never experience anything near the pleasure and satisfaction she is capable of experiencing. She hurts and aches for more. How is it right that she should hurt, ache and suffer because of this? Has she not the right to all she is capable of experiencing? Would you encourage him to recognize this?

If you are a woman or a wife, would you understand her resentment or disappointment at this outcome? If you are a man, would you be intimidated or aroused by this experience?

Do you care for your wife enough to facilitate her deeply-felt need? Wouldn't a better response be for him to approach the couple with an apology, to admit that this stud is the better man, and to put this relationship right? How would you council this husband?

If this experience resonated with you in any way, post a reply!
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Arousal Changes Us...

This is the last of several posts based on an internet forum thread in which a husband-to-be explains that he is glad for his fiancé to be sexed by a younger and much better endowed male.

In two previous posts, an evangelical Christian wife learns to reject her church prejudices. There, she said that her pastor blames marital breakdown on adultery. Yet here, her passion for this marriage grows even as she visualizes the love triangle. Her description is congested with her own arousal. How ironic that churches stand against the best that can be found in marriage!

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Evangelical Gal:

'I think that any church you and your wife join will call what she does ‘adultery.’ Admittedly, it's a simple-minded definition and it allows no wiggle-room; but that's what you'll encounter if you join a church.'

'After reading our posts and giving it a LOT of thought, I still believe what I said before: her physical relationship with the young man isn't ‘adultery’ and shouldn't be called that since neither of you is cheating on the other. You just both are giving the other what they want.'

'You aren't just "tolerating" her extra-marital relationship, which would be wonderful enough; Christ, you actually GET OFF on it, so she's giving you that thrill as a part of your marriage relationship. And you're giving HER the thrill of mounting that much younger guy with that huge cock!!!!!'

'I also agree with you that his standing with you as your best man really is mind-blowing. It sexualizes your entire wedding, overtly and beautifully. You may need to be careful about who you tell about the true paternity of the child in the bride’s womb, but that level of care depends directly on how much embarrassment you're willing to deal with, or how much humiliation you crave.'

'You strike me as wanting as much as the two of them can pile on you, so maybe the more people you tell, the better, and maybe the more sexually overt they get during the ceremony, the happier you'll be.'

'The idea of them aching for each other's naked bodies as the minister reads the vows and announces you as husband and wife makes me wet. Might I suggest another filthy flaunting of wedding ceremony tradition? Get your fiancée to work on adding something personal to her vows that is directed at her lover and her relationship with him. Since they and you intend to continue their relationship into your marriage, it would be exciting for all three of you to acknowledge that arrangement somehow. And it would be fucking HOT!'

Tasting and Converting to New Things.

Raised in life-long commitment to church, this evangelical wife has heard frequent diatribes against adultery. Yesterday’s post shows a shift in attitude. As her perspective continues to change, today’s post shows a definitive break from her church rants. And her perspective and attitude shift for interesting reasons and in interesting ways.

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Evangelical Gal:

‘We are a Christian family. I was raised in the Lutheran church. I began attending my husband's non-denominational evangelical church after we married. We are raising our children in that church. Our pastor speaks about adultery frequently. Like most Christian ministers, he always points to adultery as the primary cause of the decline of the modern family. Members of our congregation who cheat on their spouses frequently become outcasts from this church. This isn’t by conscious effort, but they just receive less attention. I have always felt that this attitude was wrong. Besides, it leaves out the element of forgiveness that the church is supposed to be about.’

‘But after reading and re-reading your posts, I now object to the church's attitude for another more substantive reason. I've thought that adultery was just wrong per se. But you have shown me that it's wrong in most situations because it is selfish: the one who cheats on his/her spouse almost always puts his/her own desires before those of the spouse.’

‘But that is absolutely and completely NOT what you are doing, or what she is doing. You are going waaaaaay out of your way to elevate her pleasure and satisfaction above your own, ignoring your own altogether, and she is allowing you to experience the joy of giving freedom and excitement to her.’

‘Admittedly, this relationship could not be replicated in more than a small handful of situations, but to call what you and she are doing ‘adultery’ or to say it is wrong – much less to call it ‘sin’ – would be to ignore the utter beauty of it and to disregard your selflessness…’

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Reading and re-reading posts shows that these new ideas made sense to this wife. As her thoughts reorganized around the new things she learned, old prejudices fell away. Her view of ‘adultery’ matured, and she outgrew her church. She now ‘corrects’ her church, and does so for more than shunning adulterers or forgetting forgiveness.

Seeing ‘Cuckold-to-be’ elevate his fiancé’s pleasure and satisfaction, seeing him ignore his own satisfaction while allowing her freedom to find excitement and joy, this wife is arrested by one, inescapable fact: this arrangement between this man, his fiancé and her lover brings to the fore the very best of what marriage is SUPPOSED to be.

By implication, her church – which supposedly supports marriage – regularly regards this activity as the downfall of marriage. This woman finds that she can no longer call this ‘adultery’ or ‘sin.’ By implication, she disagrees with her church, which ignores the ‘utter beauty’ of it while disregarding this man’s selflessness.

This wife is having a second ‘conversion.’ Proof? She closes this post with:

‘…AND OH MY DEAR SWEET MOTHER OF CHRIST, the way you describe making him a part of your wedding!!! OH MY GOD!!! AS BEST MAN!!! You have hit on such a perfect and sweet and heavenly idea with that, and I can't imagine how you arrived at that, but it's incredibly beautiful, and I think it's something you really MUST do. Enjoy!!!’

This Evangelical wife has tasted new things, and she has seen that they are good.

Have you?

Surprising Turn and Changing Attitudes...

Yesterday, Cuckoldrix Awakening re-posted a discussion from a man who consents for his fiancé to enjoy regular sex from a younger, more virile and clearly more capable lover. That was followed by several responses posted as women. One of those was posted yesterday.

Today, the ‘cuckold-in-waiting’ is given a voice. This is followed by a response from another woman. Posting as an evangelical Christian, this second woman admits to long-standing prejudices against such behavior. But the account of this ‘cuckold-in-waiting’ began to change her attitude. This becomes more apparent in several other posts.

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From Cuckold-in-Waiting

'She loves her young lover’s big cock and she can’t get enough of it or him. I really can’t satisfy her sexually … so I'm really glad that he can, that she's happy and that I am also. Her happiness is the most important thing to me. I do love her unconditionally and she loves me, after all she wouldn't have said ‘yes’ when I proposed to her.'

'I only have a little cock and his cock is very impressive, I can't blame my fiancé wanting it inside her and him fucking her with it, if she ever wanted me to suck it and have him cum in my mouth and he was ok with that then I would do that for her if it made her happy, I'll do anything to make her happy.'

'I want her pregnant with his baby or babies … I really can’t wait for him to impregnate her. Hopefully she will be showing on our wedding day. I want us to make our vows with her young lover beside me as my best man. I want him to know that it is his child she is carrying. I really will do anything for her and I will try to be the best husband I can and I will be good to her. She is gorgeous and an amazing woman. She is so very, very sexy and I'm very fortunate she is going to be my wife. I'm truly and so much in love with her and its wonderful for me.'

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From Evangelical Gal:

'I am unbelievably surprised, but I actually find incredible beauty and lovingness in the way you write about your fiancés pregnancy and the wedding. I’m surprised as I am a church-going wife and mother of three children. For obvious reasons, I always frowned on adultery. But you are clearly in love with this girl! Clearly, you want ONLY what is best for her and ONLY what she wants. Clearly, you are eliminating your own interests from any consideration. All this is just amazing.'

'I suppose I could say you’re doing what's best for the younger man also. I mean, I'm no prude or cloistered wife. I've heard of open and polyandrous relationships. I've heard of the idea of cuckolding. But you are FAR beyond ALL that in that your only desire is for your fiancés happiness.'

'Reading your writing, I actually feel the heat, the sexuality – and the love – of a girl walking down the aisle toward one man while carrying in her belly the child of another. I feel it as if it were me … knowing that the man I'm about to marry not only allows me to experience love with another man, to be impregnated by him, and to continue that throughout our marriage; I understand that he actually wanted and planned this to happen! I feel it as if he actually arranged for me to be sexed over and over again by this very powerful, sexually satisfying man with the intent that he would make me pregnant!'

'And he did another thing: he actually scheduled our wedding to maximize the exposure of my sexuality and my love for the other YOUNGER man… Christ.....the whole thing just makes me weak. And wet.'

'Your fiancé is a very, very, very lucky girl. I wish you both well.'

Hot for Ryan...

An internet forum tells of a husband-to-be who believes that he is not able to satisfy his fiancé. He explains that his fiancé regularly enjoys sex with another man. 

This other man's penis is much larger than his own. He is a better lover and he gives her much better sex.

This husband-to-be is very excited sexually that his fiancé wears his engagement ring, while another man regularly wears her out and leaves her sated with pleasure that he could never give her. He wants this arrangement to continue even after their marriage. And he wants to include this other man in their marriage ceremony.

A number of posters responded positively to this. So apparently, it struck a nerve. Among those were several posters reporting as women. Some of those responses will be the basis of the next several posts. Grammar has been adjusted for readability, but care has been taken to preserve the meaning of the text as it was posted.

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'Somehow, I wish you could talk to my husband and convince him to let me have Ryan. Ryan works for him, and we are hot for each other. We want each other so bad! He is several years younger than me. He is even younger than my husband's son by his third marriage. When we’re together, we flirt. We have played ‘kissy-face’ and ‘rub-rub’ when nobody at the office was there to see us. I wish my husband thought like you do! Then Ryan and I could really go at it seriously!'

'I have even thought about eventually having Ryan's baby. I've thought about how hot it would be to fling with him for a while, then have a real affair, and then have him make me pregnant. But I don't know if I could start that. I think my husband would see how hot Ryan gets me whenever we’re together. I'm just afraid that if I let it start, I wouldn’t be able to control myself with Ryan. I’d end up mounting him every time we were together.'

'Still, my husband knows that I play with other men; but he doesn't know when or with whom. And I don't tell him because he doesn't want to know. He wants it private to cause him no embarrassment in the business world, or at church, or among friends.'

'So far I've been very good at that. If I did something and my husband knew, I might be in trouble. But reading these posts and seeing how lucky your girl is – that makes me think seriously about Ryan and how delicious he is [and a few others also]. If Ryan really made a serious move on me, I doubt I could resist, especially since I think Ryan has (oh my!) ................a gigantic cock, like her boyfriend. LUCKY!!!!!!!! So what you’re doing makes me want to be like your girl!'
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What You Are Missing ...

What you are missing

Another of rougedmount's posts; her description demands awe. Her insights are powerful because they are so very deeply true that one senses reverence for them, and that of which she speaks. Her eloquence is not for debate but for sheer enjoyment.
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You can not mimic the weight of a heavy cock
Not by silicone artifice or confident projection
The thick, weightiness is deeply satisfying
Not just to see, but to feel on and in your body
A toy does not contain the heat of a real cock
It does not have that impossibly hard steel
Wrapped in the silken movement of a mans skin

Heated flesh tasting faintly of salt and smelling of his intimate musk
A toy is inanimate and does not have the throbbing heartbeat within
The twitching arousal expressing excitement
A woman can feel the engorgement rise or decrease
When a man is tightly ensconced inside of her body
We can feel you sweetly swelling inside of us
Filling us to the point where we are forced to accommodate it
Thinking our bodies can’t and then feeling that indeed, we can

A big and heavy cock parts your intimate areas
It does not enter you, it opens you
When a large erection pushes inside of you
Past the fragile and delicate folds of your secret places
It literally takes your breath away for a moment

Your body becomes an extension of his
It is perfect in the same way as the aorta joins the heart
Or how fingers extend from the palm of a hand
It is beautiful in the way of two separate things merging into one
So that there is no differentiation of where one thing ends
And the other thing begins, even though they are separate in form and function
Nothing can mimic the emotional surrender
Of being rent apart by the impossible heat of a thick and heavy cock
Your body barely accepts it, accommodates it willingly, then finally craves it

It is how someone can feel a phantom limb when it’s missing
When you are entered by the massive erection of a well endowed man
It completes your own female body with a sigh of welcome completion
Nothing else can make you feel this complete surrender
It is the combination of size, thickness, heat, silk and steel
Which make the magic of the union work exactly as it was meant to
It is the correct combination of all the ingredients

The sight and weight of those heavy swinging testicles
Delicious orbs that move on their own volition
With the grace and beauty of an undulating sea
Delivering a heady smack upon sensitive feminine skin
As they provide the base from which hope eternal springs forth
In the proud strength of a mighty oak stand
They promise power and expulsion of life sustaining fluids
Copious amount of tangy cream to spray in wide legged prowess and pride
Seminal fluids seeping and dripping from the wide bulbous head
Of an engorged and fevered shaft proving arousal and promising everything
In the sateen shine of its pearled liquid silver

The sight of a magnificent engorgement is wondrous
Comparing the endowments between the have and have not’s of men
Is like viewing a gelded child’s pony and a Percheron Stallion
You eye is drawn between one then the other
Tracing not only the lines of muscle and brawn
But drawn continuously towards their groin and the infinite differences
To wonder at the glorious evolution of the male form
That thickened appendage of savage delight and torment

And there is no choice between them
It was made by the evolution of the species
My female body craves the superior specimen
The hyper masculine male of plenty
His pendulous glory of sinew and turgid muscle
Makes your womb clench in immediate need and awareness

You can feel the lengthening of your secret passage
And the silken veils of modesty dampen with desire
As your body prepares itself to be taken by the mighty stallion
You have a man of substance between your thighs
He is joined to the essence that marks you as woman

He is the fallen angel who shall make you sing
As he carries your exhausted and battered body
To wherever he chooses to take you
His body controls yours, his power surging through his cock
Reclaiming the part of him contained within you
You do not have sex with a well endowed man
You are taken by him and remade into something better

An orgasm can be claimed by anyone who can follow directions
It is a simple linear and predictable outcome to manual stimulation
But a man with a cock, with weight and size, gives you many
He makes your body respond with no effort or will of your own
His wand is the perfect instrument to wield his magic
As he brings your body to such intense complexity of feelings
That you orgasm repeatedly and when it suites him to make you

Lost, you lose control again and again until you are mindless
You become nothing but sensations and it is only the weight of his cock
That anchors your mind to your body and your body to earth
If you remember sexual encounters with prior lovers
Then he was not well endowed
If he had been blessed with a glorious cock
You would recall a sexual experience, instead
The difference between a penis and a cock
Is simply, everything

If you have never experienced a well hung man
Who is skilled in matters of sexual gratification,
Then all the potential of what may have been, is lost
If you have settled for a man with a small penis
Then you have made enormous compromises
And had to negotiate a sexual relationship
Rather than being immersed in a natural one
You have had discussions and revelations
And worked through issues and found ways to compensate
Rather than being unable to even speak, let alone think

Being with a man who is cock heavy
Means that your body reaches its throbbing sexual potential
Rather than barely passing to the bare minimum possible
If you settle for monogamy to a man with a small penis
Then you will never know what you are missing
Because as much as you try explain color to someone who is blind
They only understand the concept of a color palette
By using their other senses to try and make sense of it.
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Clever

Endowments

Intelligent and gifted with a singular ability to perceive and articulate what others feel but may not always express with words, rougedmount's blog contains many outstanding posts. One of these is reproduced here.
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endowments matter

universities get them, businesses get them, people who are worthy of the accolades get them.

they are given in increments where allocation of larger ones are envied and respected

everyone is generally satisfied with what they were given, though wish they were given just a little more

money, success, anything quantifiable or measurable, men seem to compare and rank themselves

cock size is no different

the have’s and have not’s look at each other knowingly and make assumptions based on the initial analysis

regardless of merit or functionality, the larger the endowment of a man, the more impressive it is

not just to him and how he caries himself, but in how other’s perceive him as well
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Like Crack, the Cuckold Fetish Hits HARD.

Sisters:

Several things bring wives here.

Some are hurt and want help.
Some are curious and want answers.
Some are fascinated and want to learn more.

Some have no idea why they're reading this except that a husband or suitor asked them to do so.

Reactions are equally diverse.

Disbelief -- are you even serious?!
Insult -- why do you think I ever would?!
Outrage -- whatever makes you want that?!
Indignation -- who do you think I am?!
Disrespect -- what do you think I am?!
Confusion -- why do you want such a thing?!

Maybe you thought that your relationship was very satisfying for both of you. Come to find out, hubby isn't so happy after all. And what he's asking, you never imagined! 

Your husband is asking you to cuckold him.
He WANTS you to have sex ... with OTHER men.

Honey if this is where things are, understand something right now.

Once your man gets a taste for the cuckold fetish, once he admits his yearning to himself, once he pushes through his angst to embrace the pleasure the idea gives him, once he learns that OTHER men's interest in you so totally arouses and enthralls him as to crush his resistance and MAKE him completely helpless to intervene -- that's it.

Once he realizes that he loves and needs it, it’s over.

There is little you or anyone else can do to save him.

Once this fetish defines his imaginative, psycho-sexual response, he will never understand why ANY woman would resist such an arrangement.

Even if he sometimes agonizes over the implications of it, he will never stop wanting to convince you to cuckold him.

Even if he never mentions it again, it will be there. Even if you never see it, it will be eating, goading, tempting him. Always.

Believe it, Honey: by the time hubby works up the nerve to raise this with you, he has saturated his mind with cuckold blogs, cuckold images and cuckold stories. He may have followed these things for months or even years. It now controls his response.

Translation?

He's HOOKED.

Straight vanilla sex with you will NEVER fill the void. He may enjoy 'one on one' intimacy, but he will NEVER again be fully satisfied with that alone. Never.

The cuckold fetish hits HARD. Like crack. Even if your man sets this aside for a time, it will always be there.

Truth is girl, husbands often to go through purges. They think they've wheeled the fetish to the curb like so much trash. But the disposition is still there.

Always.

Just waiting.

It's waiting for a trigger. And in weeks, months or years, opportunity or circumstances will 'trigger' that disposition!

Something will set it off and he'll fall off the wagon. When it does, his cuckold tendency will reignite a whirlwind of cuckold desire.

In a solitary instant, he will succumb to his latent cuckold fetish! He will return to all his favorite cuckold blogs. He'll be more convinced than ever that there is no better sex for you on the planet--and absolutely no better sexual high for him!

Like never before, he will be completely convinced of the utter beauty, rightness and goodness of it. His desire for you to spend yourself in long, slow, pumping, juicing, throbbing orgasms on a very well-endowed man will burn in him with sacred vengeance!

Absolutely nothing on this earth you or anyone else can do will stop it.

Not. A. Thing.

The truth is Honey, it matters not whether it makes sense to you. What matters is that this makes TOTAL sense to him. This is his new reality.

So here is the question: ‘what will be your next move.’

Basically, you have three options.

1. You can resist it.
2. You can ignore it.
3. You can accept it.

It's easy to rule out option 3 first and say, "but I'd never do that!'

Yet each option has consequences.

Options 1 and 2: 

• Offer NO WAY to move past this relational roadblock.
• Block communication between you and your husband.
• Guarantee frustration and resentment for you both.

Refusing option 3 retreats back to 1 and 2.
But 1 and 2 are not 'resolutions' at all.

That's where option 3 becomes VERY compelling.

Why?

Because Honey, his cuckold fetish isn't going to quit or leave.

Not ever! 

That's the rub. 

That's the strength of option 3. 

Only option 3 pushes through this issue to move toward marital maturation. That is the only option with a difference. Since his cuckold desire ISN'T going to change...

So you can stay stuck on 1 or 2 permanently, OR

You can move on to 3.

The choice is yours.
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If you're trying to figure out what to do with this, here's a plan. Print this page. When you're alone together [or better, if he brings it up] give him this to read.
 
When he sees where it’s going, he’ll be pretty intensely involved. That is to your advantage. While he is reading, realizing that you’re onto him, wondering what you’re thinking and what he’ll say next, you get to watch him like a hawk, for guilt or arousal, for dread or comprehension.
 
As soon as he’s finished, have your questions ready. Use them before he has a chance to recover his footing. Demand to get it from him. ‘This is true, isn’t it; that’s what all this has been about...isn’t it.’ Make sure that he hears this NOT as a question [is this true...] but as a statement YOU know is true, and you’re going to see him ADMIT it to you.
 
If he tries to back out, close off his escape. TELL him that he’s hooked. MAKE him admit it, that he is helpless to stop fantasizing about it and to be aroused by it. Don’t let him off because he promises to change! Point out that men often undergo ‘purges,’ but are drawn back to this like a moth to a flame. Tell him that you know that he can’t help but be aroused by this. You know that it is only a matter of time before something sets off his cuckold fantasizing again.
 
MAKE him admit these things.
 
When he does, it’s likely that he will be very vulnerable. Likely, he'll want to know where he stands with you, and whether this changes thing between you. Remember that this may be emotionally challenging for him. But don’t apologize for what his nagging brought on him. And you don’t have to answer him. 

You can say that ‘I need time to think through these things...’

This means that you have control of the conversation. After all, with his weeks, months or even years of coaxing you to consider cuckolding him, he can hardly deny you that.

If he wants to know where you found this, you can decide whether to answer. If you want, you can say simply, `...this is the information age; women talk. ’
 
This discussion can alter the sexual power balance in your relationship significantly. It can put you in position to shape where the relationship goes. You now have an opportunity to consider what this means, what you do or don’t want, and how you might proceed.