Showing posts with label Facing Fears. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Facing Fears. Show all posts

Tuesday, 15 September 2015

Fanning Smoldering Cuckold Desire Into Flame

Being a man is more than having a penis.

Honesty, truth and disclosure play their own part. Manhood also means knowing and sometimes admitting one's limitations. Admission of inadequacy and declaration of need implies vulnerability And for some men, that in turn can mean facing their worst fears. As much as they may desire and truly need complete honesty, some men simply cannot be vulnerable and truthful. Not even with the one they love most in life. In fact, especially not with her.

For many a man with an undeveloped penis, it can be a solitary horror to discuss sexual issues with his wife. Certain matters assume 'official secret' status. He is loathe to admit his most intimate issues with 'her;' much less has he strength actually to discuss such things in detail. Instead, he wallows in secret inhibition and insecurity. 

Still, the temptation to openness and honesty with his wife is strong! But even as honesty tempts disclosure, fear and insecurity gnaw his resolve, paralyzing him in inaction. Try as he may, many a small man 'jams' when trying to host this conservation. No matter how much he wishes it, or how how hard he may try, he can never be honest about his desires with his wife. And as he can never be honest, he cannot mature sexually, and their sexual relationship cannot progress.

'...one of the things that has become abundantly clear and fascinates me to no end, is just how many small-endowed men crave this same fantasy. And, they don’t just want to watch their wives having sex with another man; they want the other man to be supremely more endowed and even better in bed. The fascinating question that must be asked is why do so many small-endowed men harbor this fantasy?'
The small-endowed man knows that his inability to discuss intimate matters with his wife is unmanly to the extreme. Yet he will not repair this because he cannot. Most likely, he neither wants to stop it, nor CAN he, since his cuckold fantasies compel an extremely powerful erotic response. These dynamics work together making it impossible for the small-endowed man to escape this conundrum. Consequently, it eats at him relentlessly.

Cuckold desire sticks. Once truly beholden to it, men don't abandon it. They do not shake this fetish. It is extremely addictive to them. Knowing this, some women put this knowledge to very good use. So do some well-endowed lovers who want to seduce and bed married women. They have even been known to elicit an under-endowed husband's perspective and help in delivering up his wife to be seduced by the stud.

Understanding these dynamics, some wives resolve their husband's dilemma for him. They broach the subject FOR their husbands. Then they arouse him with these thoughts in order to seduce and elicit his ardent consent for her to take a very well-endowed man.

Well-endowed men understand this.

So do other wives married to Mr. Little.

Do you?
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If you are a wife who wishes you could broach this with your husband, how do you feel about the fact that many small-endowed men share this fantasy?

If you are a small husband, is the fetish_suppression/fetish_arousal conundrum the irresistible temptation that draws you in time and time again, gradually wearing you down and eliciting your internal consent for your wife to experience the pleasure she deserves?

Tuesday, 26 May 2015

Discussing Large Endowment with a Beautiful Stranger



Today, I bought a flash drive. When I asked the cashier to retrieve the device, she waited a moment for me to lead her. When I didn’t move, she realized I hadn’t yet seen them. An extraordinarily beautiful, African-American woman, she handed me a perfect opening for discussing fascinating things. Of course I took it. Her part of the dialogue is indicated by PC [Pretty Cashier]
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PC: Oh – you haven’t found them yet [leading me] … well let’s see … we keep them in different places actually.

Me: You DO? ... Well I will not ask in what places you keep them …

PC: Stops in front of a display and chuckles lightly [humorous reply is always good] ... OK so we have this small one which holds only 8 gigs. Then those ones hold 16 gigs and sell for $15. And this is our biggest one. This is a 32 gig drive and it sells for $25.

I had to ask ...

Me: Do you like the big ones?

PC: Lowers her head slightly, looks straight ahead, her lips purse slightly, and the muscles around her gorgeous face tighten sightly as she suppresses the temptation to giggle.

Me: I feign being nonplused … What ……………..? I just asked if you like the big ones ...

Deliberately, I gave her a good long moment to let her hang herself with MORE reaction that she could retract or deny. Her gorgeous lips stay tightly pursed.

Me: Oh REALLY now! Is that what you're thinking? [Pretending only then to ‘figure it out’].

PC: Lips broaden into wide smile ...

Me: Well at least we both know ... what we're discussing ...

PC: Head rolls toward me slightly and wobbles a little ... well ... it's ...

Me: Let me guess– you’ve never handled that much data before ...?

PC: She looks away, but is clearly enjoying the double entendre. She looks my way.

Me: So does your boyfriend know that you think about such things?

PC: No … I don’t  ...

Me: But obviously, you've got your own opinion on these matters ...

PC: Smiling broadly, teeth showing

Me: And clearly, you've thought SOMETHING about it ...

She seems to become vulnerable and ready to share more when a coworker, another very pretty young woman, arrives. I don't know their relationship. My first priority is to avoid any potential embarrassment of my new friend. Basically, I end discussion there.

Me to coworker: She may or may not tell you about this discussion. I'll support her decision either way.

Me to PC: 'Thank you for helping me pick out the better flash drive...'

PC: 'Well that one does have more inches ...'

Isn't it curious how images and ideas work in our mind?

Me to PC: '...Inches?

PC: I mean ...

I saw a beautiful and knowing smile as the import of what she said dawned on her...

Me to PC: Let me just say that this has been a joy. Your openness to discussing this is wonderfully refreshing, and wherever you decide to go, I would affirm you in it completely...
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Pressed for time, I couldn’t bring the coworker into the discussion. And I had no chance to ‘test the waters’ to see how she might react. Disappointing as it was, I ended discussion there. Had circumstances been different, I would have pursued several lines of inquiry:

1] You’re wonderfully open … we just met and you obviously enjoy discussing this … yet you don’t discuss with your boyfriend. Why is that? Isn’t it a bit odd or sad … I mean, shouldn’t you be able to?

2] I think that if he truly cares for a young woman and puts her first, he will make it safe for her to share absolutely anything she wants or needs to share with him… wouldn’t you agree that is the ideal?

3] Did you know that even if not supportive, many men are at least open to their woman trying a ‘big drive?’ And that women who know why this is so can often coax/wheedle their men into agreeing to it?

4] Did you know that some men actually want this for their woman, and that absolutely nothing on the planet is as uncontrollably hot to them as his wife or girl taking another, usually well-endowed, man?

5] Many people do find these things quite fascinating. And they certainly pique your interest. Can you look in my eyes and say with total honesty that this hasn’t made you even a teeeeeny bit wet?
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I thanked her for her help and said that she totally convinced me which was the way to go … I took the big flash drive and left with it -- and the memory of her big smile.
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Would you like to have had this conversation? Have you had similar conversations? Would you like to be able to have this discussion with your wife? Or, would you like for another man or woman to have this conversation with your girlfriend or wife? What do you think?

Monday, 25 May 2015

Desperate with Desire, Tormented by Timidity!


For husbands with secret, cuckold desire based on their diminutive penis, sexual honesty requires admitting three truths.

1] Your reluctance to tell your wife of your desire touches on your DEEP insecurities.

2] Your wife’s discovery of your cuckold desire would be a HUGE relief for you!

Fearful Insecurity ... HUGE Relief. Fearful Insecurity ... HUGE Relief.

You NEED to Tell Her

Deep down, many small husbands want and need to come clean and level with their wives about this cuckold need. As one small husband said:

‘I'm 42 and married. My wife has never discussed penis size with me but I'd love to (we'd have to be pretty wasted).

She has no idea that I'm the guy hugging the porcelain in public restrooms because my size is "la puny mushroom."

Do I look? Of course! And every so often, I'm shamed, exhilarated, validated-WHATEVER- by a glimpse of much more than I'll ever have.

What would my wife think or say if she knew that I peek compulsively and am insecure? I wonder. I’m thinking of telling her (a bit at a time) to get her reactions and comments.  Any suggestions on how to do it?’

Yes. But for now, read what another guy said when asked... “would you dare to show your wife internet pix of guys in the ‘wonder of nature’ class, and see where that leads?”

His reply?
‘The thought turns me on now but my wife has never seen or touched another cock but mine; what if she really got curious after seeing pics of ones bigger than me? Plus she might tease me afterwards. I would like to somehow maybe get her to see a few pics though just out of curiosity.'
See how boys with tiny toys talk?
In just a few lines, we get…

She has no idea...
We’ve never talked about it...
The thought turns me on but…
What if she really got curious...
Shamed, exhilarated, validated...
I would like to somehow maybe...
What if she teased me afterwards...
Any suggestions on how to tell her…
I want her reactions and comments...
Pix...just a few...to see her reaction…
Never talked about…but I’d love to…
I compulsively peak and am insecure...
I’m thinking of telling her–a bit at a time...

Sense a little insecurity here? 
Compulsive fascination? 
Anguish? 

Many small-endowed men are consumed by fantasies of being cuckolded. They fantasize of their wife with a man who has a truly man-sized penis.

He DREADS Your Discovery!

Many small husbands want desperately to explain their cuckold desire with their wifeBut they're also terrified at her potential reaction!

What if she teases me–-isn’t that just like a little boy!
What if she saw a real man and “got really curious?”

Well so what?

So what if she "got really curious?" Small men certainly are! And it's not by decision or choice. It's extremely and inescapably erotic for them. It's a reaction. It is completely compulsory. Many men are utterly helpless to 'turn it off.'

So on one hand, it's fine for Mr. Little to be consumed by such thoughts and desires. But Mrs. Little isn’t supposed to know that he has huge issues with his tiny penis?

Why the hypocrisy? Why the double standard?

'Oh but if she knew how men are, what other men are like, how could I compete?'

That's the kicker. Why?

It’s because having a small penis does weird things to a man’s mind. But why shouldn’t wives know this? 

Just so small husbands won’t be able to hide their little secret any longer, let’s list some of those issues here.

That way, wives everywhere can read and learn what small husbands think and fantasize about constantly, but are loathe to admit and won’t tell her otherwise.
  • A small penis makes many men feel deeply and shamefully unmanly.
  • A small penis makes many men keenly aware of their sexual limitations. 
  • A small penis makes many men feel awed by and respectful toward very well-endowed men.
  • A small penis makes many men highly susceptible to cuckold fantasies.
  • A small penis makes many men extremely aroused by thoughts of their wife being seduced.
  • A small penis makes many men extremely aroused when they see their wife potential cuckolding him.
  • A small penis makes many men very submissive when well endowed men interacts with his wife.
  • A small penis makes many it impossibly difficult for many men to be sexual honesty with his wife.
  • A small penis makes many men vulnerable to his wife's sexual direction.
  • A small penis makes many men vulnerable to helping a well endowed man seduce his wife.
Note well -- a small penis MAKES under-endowed men feel these things. So many times, they simply can't help it. They're powerless NOT to react those ways. So often, it’s as if their small size programs them to accept it.

Most husbands will act decisively if another man makes overtures toward his wife. But if a man he knows is virile and very well-endowed approaches her, a small husband’s issues can very powerfully sabotage his ability to intervene and stop his own cuckolding.

Some have watched, paralyzed in wonder, envy and deep admiration, as a stud expertly and effortlessly took charge of his wife’s sexual response right under his nose. To Mr. Little, this is like seeing sex as it is supposed to be. He feels it i inappropriate to intervene. And often, his own arousal rages out of control as he watches her beautifully seduced, while he himself is helpless to act to stop it.

At the very least, his ability to 'protect his interests' may be very seriously sabotaged.

There are several reasons for this.

1] He may be so overwhelmed by submissive feelings that he can mount no real or effective resistance. The power and eroticism of the moment washes out his masculine energy. He senses that Nature intends for him to step aside and allow a very well endowed man to fulfill this purpose by giving his wife what he cannot give her. Some small men feel this is what the well endowed man is supposed to do. Because he can.

2] He may fear provoking a sexual contest that, as an under endowed man, he can only lose. He may fear being 'outed.' If he tries to stop it, the stud may shame him for his inferiority and inability to satisfy his own wife. He may point Mrs. Little to hubby’s tiny erection, explain his cuckold desire to her, and use that to seduce her. And if he says Mr. Little obviously wants her to compare erections? Mr. Little may decide that non-resistance is his 'safest' bet.

3] To his own amazed horror, Mr. Little may be deeply aroused! And it’s all quite remarkable. A stud effortlessly bypasses Mrs. Little’s boundaries. Mr. Little sees it. But just when a strong, decisive, masculine reply is needed, he instantly floods with powerful feelings and emotions of fear, envy, astonishment, insecurity, anxiety, fascination, intrigue, submission, respect and more.

Confused and disoriented, a lifetime of insecurities rise to demand resolution, while his astonished eyes fixate all his attention on what is happening in front of him! He has no time to process anything, no idea how to act or what to do. And he discovers that he is powerless to do anything. So he watches in complete helplessness as the well endowed man plies his wife’s sex and makes her desire mount.

The under endowed husband can’t compete, can’t deny his arousal, and can’t stop this seduction. He is desperate to see it and learn as the well endowed man passes boundary after boundary. He remains passive as the well endowed man arouses his wife and does as he wants.

Endowed men and small men alike have long understood these things. When they discover them, the wives of under endowed men are greatly empowered.

Stuck Between Insecurity and Relief

Men with tiny sex organs are hyper-aware of their sexual limitations. This relates is their complete lack of courage to discuss this with his wife. But that very timidity confirms his shame and sense of a lack of manliness.

This leads to an intriguing question. It's one that small-endowed husbands ought to consider. This is unless you're the wife, and then maybe YOU should ask it: 

With which is it easier to live:
  • Fearful insecurity with no escape OR
  • Risk with a potential for HUGE relief?
Tiny husbands often want desperately to share their feelings with the woman they love. But they are terrified to start that conversation!

Typically, such guys not only NEED this discussion, they deeply BELIEVE all these things. But he fears his wife may take real offense at his feelings. He fears she won't take this seriously. And he fears that she will take it very seriously.

Under-endowed men know that their small penis issues translate into immense, sexual power for wives IF they understand the issues. Whether or not wives use this knowledge, just knowing it gives wives enormous sexual power. That puts small men in a powerful, erotic bind.

On one hand, he craves for his wife to be a sexually powerful woman. That arouses him supremely! But he is also terrified that she'll put her new-found discoveries to the test! Her exploring his issues will arouse him more! That flaming arousal in turn predisposes him to ACCEPT her continued exploration of his issues, and seeking well endowed men for mind-blowing sexual pleasures.

The combination of fear and burning desire is extremely erotic for under-endowed men. This circle of fear and arousal confirms everything he believes about his own inadequacy. That makes his beliefs even more compelling and real! The husband with a childishly small penis is caught in multiple submissive and erotic binds from which there is no escape. 

He can't give women what well-endowed men do because he doesn't have it to give. He believes it's natural and almost inevitable that well-endowed men pair with powerful, sexually aggressive women. Yet the idea of a powerful, sexually aggressive wife enthralls him. No matter what he does, he can't shake these feelings and dynamics. 

He desires desperately to discuss this. But timidity cows him into silence. He craves it, yet recoils from it. It's tormenting and very unmanly. And astonishingly, it's due entirely to his having a tiny penis.

Wouldn’t honesty be easier?

Wouldn't honesty be better?

Why not get this into the open and be done with it? 

And really, shouldn’t wives know? Most know or suspect anyway.

It's Time to Act

Why prolong this with the "thousand hints" path? Isn't this "official secret" a heavy burden? Why agonize endlessly over a little penis?

Men loathe compulsive insecurity. The only manly way forward is to move from fearful insecurity to disclosure. And that would be a HUGE relief. Small men must face this hurdle to mature in their manhood. There IS no other way forward.

This brings us to the third truth required of little guys with secret, cuckold desires.

3. Honesty means being man enough to tell her about your cuckold fantasy!
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Touch any nerves? Do you know that should read this? Suppose your wife discovered this page. Would you find this a little unsettling? Would you be aroused by it? Imagine finding this on the computer screen and her asking your thoughts on it. Imagine getting an instant erection, and her asking you to explain what that meant.

Again, suppose that a man who finds your attractive wife attractive reads this blog. Why wouldn't he email her the link to this page? Or perhaps you WISH someone would send her that link, because you HAVE to discuss this -- but jam EVERY time you try to raise it.

In the end, there is this about the 'small penis as an official secret:'
  • Staying where you are isn't manly.
  • It disgusts you, and rightly so.
  • Chances are, she'll be better with it than you.
  • You ache for this HUGE relief.
So what is your next move? Why not post a reply?