It Matters ...

It Matters...

In poetic form and with compelling expression, rougedmont's blog shares how and why the male anatomy matters.
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it matters more than you think it does

women are afraid to state their preference

because our vagina’s are designed for diversity

the average adult vagina is 3-4 inches long

when it is un-aroused, un-lubricated, un-inspired

3 to 4 inches long in our natural and flaccid state

we elongate to beautifully expand our pleated folds

to comfortably accommodate both girth and length

of the erect and aroused phallus looking to penetrate us

our depth can vary between women to take 8 to 12 inches

before our cervix would be bruised from his thrusting

we can shorten our depth depending on sexual position

we can make a tighter fit with strong pelvic floor muscles

even though childbirth will alter things forever to different

we are built to comfortably encase a well endowed man

when we are excited and aroused ourselves

the more excited we get, the bigger the man we can take

yet even a flaccid vagina can accept the barely felt intrusion

of a man who can’t even fill you when bored and uninterested

the ache of un-fulfillment throbs with your uterine contractions

as you orgasm and are still left wanting something deeper

something wider to allow your body to respond as it was meant to

Could you make and live with this decision?

letting your vagina hold onto the thick pulsing cock in a death grip

of pleasured milking sensations and suctioning wanted intrusions

instead of having the tactile sensation of internal pressure devoid

from your partners lack of endowment when you are aroused

it matters more than most women will admit

for fear of hurting feelings or making size a priority

especially if you know exactly what you are missing

when you decide to settle for a small cock sexual experience
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Sisters: Is rougedmont's last point a mistake you made? What would be your thoughts to your best girlfriend if she asked you about these things?

Fanning Smoldering Cuckold Desire Into Flame

Being a man is more than having a penis.

Honesty, truth and disclosure play their own part. Manhood also means knowing and sometimes admitting one's limitations. Admission of inadequacy and declaration of need implies vulnerability And for some men, that in turn can mean facing their worst fears. As much as they may desire and truly need complete honesty, some men simply cannot be vulnerable and truthful. Not even with the one they love most in life. In fact, especially not with her.

For many a man with an undeveloped penis, it can be a solitary horror to discuss sexual issues with his wife. Certain matters assume 'official secret' status. He is loathe to admit his most intimate issues with 'her;' much less has he strength actually to discuss such things in detail. Instead, he wallows in secret inhibition and insecurity. 

Still, the temptation to openness and honesty with his wife is strong! But even as honesty tempts disclosure, fear and insecurity gnaw his resolve, paralyzing him in inaction. Try as he may, many a small man 'jams' when trying to host this conservation. No matter how much he wishes it, or how how hard he may try, he can never be honest about his desires with his wife. And as he can never be honest, he cannot mature sexually, and their sexual relationship cannot progress.

'...one of the things that has become abundantly clear and fascinates me to no end, is just how many small-endowed men crave this same fantasy. And, they don’t just want to watch their wives having sex with another man; they want the other man to be supremely more endowed and even better in bed. The fascinating question that must be asked is why do so many small-endowed men harbor this fantasy?'

The small-endowed man knows that his inability to discuss intimate matters with his wife is unmanly to the extreme. Yet he will not repair this because he cannot. Most likely, he neither wants to stop it, nor CAN he, since his cuckold fantasies compel an extremely powerful erotic response. These dynamics work together making it impossible for the small-endowed man to escape this conundrum. Consequently, it eats at him relentlessly.

Cuckold desire sticks. Once truly beholden to it, men don't abandon it. They do not shake this fetish. It is extremely addictive to them. Knowing this, some women put this knowledge to very good use. So do some well-endowed lovers who want to seduce and bed married women. They have even been known to elicit an under-endowed husband's perspective and help in delivering up his wife to be seduced by the stud.

Understanding these dynamics, some wives resolve their husband's dilemma for him. They broach the subject FOR their husbands. Then they arouse him with these thoughts in order to seduce and elicit his ardent consent for her to take a very well-endowed man.

Well-endowed men understand this.

So do other wives married to Mr. Little.

Do you?
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If you are a wife who wishes you could broach this with your husband, how do you feel about the fact that many small-endowed men share this fantasy?

If you are a small husband, is the fetish_suppression/fetish_arousal conundrum the irresistible temptation that draws you in time and time again, gradually wearing you down and eliciting your internal consent for your wife to experience the pleasure she deserves?

Why Does My Husband Want Me to Have Big Cock Sex?

Nothing is on the internet permanently. Sadly, the blog from which today's article is taken exists no longer. But here and there, a few posts were saved and submitted by other parties. Written by 'Hottie' and her husband, Steve, today's post is one such offering. All the text is original, but bold, red text was added for emphasis.
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by 'Hottie'

From Insecurity and Jealousy to Acceptance

'When my husband first revealed that he fantasized about wanting to watch me having sex with a well-endowed man, I was quite naturally surprised by his admission.  Prior to his small penis acceptance, Steve was somewhat insecure and jealous, and then, when he accepted his smallness, it’s as if a new “enlightened” Steve emerged from his shell. It took me awhile to adjust to this sudden and complete change in him.  But, I love the “new” Steve.'

Small-Endowed Men Especially Susceptible!

'I knew some men fantasized about wanting to watch their wives with other men, but one of the things that has become abundantly clear and fascinates me to no end, is just how many small-endowed men crave this same fantasy. And, they don’t just want to watch their wives having sex with another man; they want the other man to be supremely more endowed and even better in bed. The fascinating question that must be asked is why do so many small-endowed men harbor this fantasy? 

Why Do They Want It?

Many men on this blog, including Steve, have expressed this desire, but what we haven’t delved into was the why?  What drives and motivates them to crave this so much?'

'Because we have a good relationship, we have explored this topic together and had many enlightening conversations about it. I have to confess, I do love talking about this subject.  We both know it turns Steve on, but we wanted to know why it’s such a turn on for him.  As a result, we have developed a hypothesis as to why the idea is so appealing and exciting for him.  We believe it’s a combination of both a natural and biological reaction.  Let me explain.'

Instinctively Knows We Deserve More

'Steve already knows he has a small penis and accepts it. I know he has a small penis, but when I remind him of that fact, it really, really turns him on. As he has explained previously, it’s as if he knows instinctively that I deserve a man who has a more satisfactory cock size.  Some women on the blog have admitted that their husbands are too small to satisfy them, but their previous lovers, and now their larger dildos provide what their husbands can’t. For these couples, they have discovered that size does matter.

He Needs This

While our relationship is different in that Steve can satisfy me even with his very small penis, his internal truth is that he believes I could be even better satisfied by a larger male, who could offer me what he can’t.  We both believe his reaction is quite natural.'

'We have also discussed several articles and books on a wide variety of sexual topics.  Sexual selection and how we evolved as humans to live in groups was extremely interesting. We have also discussed Dr. David Ley’s book, “Insatiable Wives” which is excellent and describes the biology of women and their sexual needs.

Nature Intends It

Dr. Ley, also has a blog, “Why Women Stray,” where he also addressed the issue of sperm competition as follows:  “As Christopher Ryan, author Terry Gould, and researchers Baker and Bellis have suggested, there is a biological response playing out here, that affects a male sexual drive.  After watching their wife with another man, the husband is prompted biologically to have longer, more vigorous sex, has a shorter refractory period between erections, ejaculates harder, and his ejaculate contains more sperm.  Nearly every couple I interviewed told me that after an episode of the wife having sex with another man, the couple felt like they were “in heat.”'

He Can't Help It!

'What they described is exactly what happens to Steve every single time I use a dildo to pleasure myself. It may not be another man, but his strong reaction to it is almost identical and unbelievable. Even at the mere site of my dildo, Steve’s penis goes from 0 to 4 throbbing inches in a heartbeat. So is his response a biological reaction? We believe it may very well be both natural and biological, and this may explain why he craves it so much…he simply can’t help it.'

'Of course, others may feel it isn’t natural or biological at all, but whatever it is, this craving lies at the very heart of the small penis teasing, cock comparisons and fantasy cuckolding that so many small endowed men crave as well. Honestly, I didn’t get it at first.  I mean, why would a man want his partner to compare his underdeveloped penis with that of another male who is substantially more endowed? Wouldn’t he be ashamed, embarrassed or even humiliated? 

The Bigger the Stud, The Better Hubby Likes It

Surprisingly, the answer is quite the contrary for small endowed men; he usually becomes incredibly aroused. What’s even more fascinating is, the greater the size disparity between your husband and the male you are comparing him to, the more aroused he becomes, which I believe, cements the notion (in his mind) that you need and deserve more cock than he has.'

'Those of you who have been following this blog for any length of time know that I love my husband’s small 4” penis and am quite satisfied by it.  But, have I been fascinated by the descriptions women have provided on this blog as far as the advantages of big cock sex?  Yes, which is why I posed the recent question on the blog, “What am I missing?”  My hubby and I both find it fascinating.   Will I ever try a large one knowing it would turn my husband on if I did?  No, because I would never risk our relationship to try it, and we are both very comfortable with that decision.   It’s intriguing and fascinating, but I would never try it.  But, because I was curious, I encouraged my hubby to order his “Big Boy Cock” extension, to see what that feels like.  Granted, it wasn’t the real thing, but I have to admit I really enjoy it.  And of course, Steve really, really liked it too!'   :)

'To summarize, we do feel there is something very natural and/or biological that explains Steve’s strong reason for wanting this, but that may not be the case for you, or you may attribute your desire to something entirely different. So, how do the rest of you feel?  Do you believe the reason why smaller men crave this fantasy is a natural and/or biological response?  Or, do you attribute it to something else entirely. We’re sure others who peruse this blog will be curious to read your comments.'

Bigger WAS Better ...

This submission is from a woman whose husband's long desire for his wife to cuckold him finally comes to fruition. He was right in saying that the experience would be very good. That became the issue.

From 'B:'

'I did it! I had sex with another man and his wife, while my husband watched. I did it and it was great.'

'I was nervous, especially because the other guy's wife was there and she was joining in. But the two of them made a GREAT team! His creativity, passion, technique, staying power, endowment, thrill of the experience itself-all made it very, very good.'

'He was big and hard and oh my - so confident! He did not have any hesitation or worry about what to do.

He just took me in his arms like we had made love many times before and started on me like I was the only woman on earth. He started slowly and gave me time to accomodate his large cock. Then he got serious. He  also used his mouth both hands on me while also using his cock on me. She was also using her hands and her mouth on me at the same time. It was just sensory overload and I lost control of my body.'

'The guy was really, really good (WOW! SWEET BABY!) in bed! In no time flat, he had me bucking and squealing like my hubby never has and [sadly] probably never will. That was the problem. I got too expressive compared to what I normally do with my hubby. But I couldn't help it! Anyway, this made my hubby mad and later he told me we would never do it again.'

'I was really reluctant to do this in the first place. But he just had this fantasy about how great it would be to see me brought off by another guy. I resisted hard. But he begged me and pleaded with me to do this for such a long time! Finally, I gave in and did it for him, because I wanted him to be happy.'

'Originally, the agreement was that after he watched me getting it, he would do both us women. Then when he actually saw it happening he got jealous because he had never seen me act like that or get so noisy with him. Maybe if he had gone first, it would have been different. I wish it was. Straight sex with him is pretty boring now. And even though I try to hide it, I think he knows this.'

'So even though her man took me, and even though she is much more beautiful than I am (she is gorgeous), my hubby refused to take her. He was intimidated -- by that, I mean more than a little intimidated -- by the other guy's performance, the size of his equipment, and how he took complete control of me. I think he lost his confidence about doing the other guy's woman and his ability to satisfy her. And from my experience, I'd have to say that he would probably be right.'

'So even though her man took me, and even though she is much more beautiful than I am, my hubby refused to take her. He had me get dressed and we left. The other couple was not happy since she did not get hers so to speak. But this hurts me also because I really miss it and now I just ache for it.'
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This wife admits sadly that likely, she will never experience anything near the pleasure and satisfaction she is capable of experiencing. She hurts and aches for more. How is it right that she should hurt, ache and suffer because of this? Has she not the right to all she is capable of experiencing? Would you encourage him to recognize this?

If you are a woman or a wife, would you understand her resentment or disappointment at this outcome? If you are a man, would you be intimidated or aroused by this experience?

Do you care for your wife enough to facilitate her deeply-felt need? Wouldn't a better response be for him to approach the couple with an apology, to admit that this stud is the better man, and to put this relationship right? How would you council this husband?

If this experience resonated with you in any way, post a reply!
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