Sexually Compatible

Earlier, I mentioned the role of language and especially questions in the lifestyle of the awakening cuckoldrix. As that earlier post implies, reflection on observation and experience prepare us for new and different responses to ideas and situations.

No one understands a woman's mind like a woman, and among women, few are as honest or as articulate as Rougedmount. The clarity and eroticism of her writing indeed offends some sisters. But if they are honest, few even among them will remain unmoved by her words. Her emotional intelligence and sensual lucidity create offerings that resonate too deeply for women to mask. This is what we all are. And writing as she does, Rougedmount demands honesty of us. And reflection on such honesty DOES change us.

A final note. Rougedmount is not unmoved by virile, men who are not Caucasian. She acknowledged this. Knowing that consummate lovers are found among all races, what Rougedmount writes here relates to this particular fantasy.
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the perfect shaft of alabaster white and the ephemeral sheerness of thin velvet skin

smooth as silk without line or vein to mar it’s perfect arch towards his mid section

too thick to encircle with fingers on one hand the symmetry unbroken until his crown

flaring with defined ridge and supple slopes his mushroom head barely a shade darker

how can you see a perfect cock and then not expect to use it for the purpose of self pleasure


to take him in both hands as you drool spittle from darling tongue and a parted full mouth

slowly stroking and manipulating his engorged flesh to simulate the thrust of sexual union

teasing him with the tickle of long hair over skin and heavy breasts brushing up his thighs

sucking him to arouse myself until i sit up and announce to him i am going to ride his cock

and i crawl over his body press my thighs on either side of his hip and come forward


he’s too big to enter without adjustment to accommodate his steady and simple entry

breasts in his face he reaches forward to suckle the puckered and distended nipples

pulling hard with greedy suction with a grasping hand massaging fullness of flesh

he seats himself deep inside so my engorged wet labia is spread against his pubic bone


bringing sighs from both of us with the perfect fit of a thick cock inside a tight sheath


i rise to start the mindless fall and he takes the space back with consistent thrusting


steady and hard he pushes into the heat of my body and against a sensitive womb

he tops from underneath to use his shaft to stroke a clitoris and his head to pound me

instant arching arousal my body responds to his call for wild abandon as I start to burn

a low rumble of orgasm which builds like a cresting and crushing wave as i milk him

sending him spasming in throbbing release as the frothy foam is churned between us

he rides through the storm i started before him and stays hard as my pleasure outlasts

watching my reaction to his shifting hips and the position of his cock as it strokes me

sensitive, i shiver and gasp with  mewl’s of receding desire as he stirs heavily inside

breathing heavily i lift an arm to brush my hair back from my face which lifts by breasts

and brings his hands from my hips up the curve of my waist to cup their spilling weight

before sliding forward to gently pinch the areolas and pull forward to roll the nipples

sending a sparking cascade of shivers through my body as i clenched involuntarily

around his softening member, making him thrust forward and into the sensation

i opened closed eyes and returned the shy smile while his hands found the back of my head


pulling me forward to kiss my lips as he slipped from my body so I could lay beside him

reclined, reposed, relaxed in post coital satisfaction and fulfillment that good sex inspires

while many things may be lacking as far as communication or compatibility between us

this is the single area i am completely satisfied with as his thickly beautiful cock works well


i can handle a powerfully built, very well hung man with a furry chest, who doesn’t talk

his big hands and rough exterior, unsure of how to be gentle when passion flares hard

because when he forgets himself and takes me because he is seeking his own pleasure

that’s exactly how he brings me to mine with the contained violence of a strong man
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If you find yourself moved by this, leave a note saying so.

That Damning, Yet Holy, Defining Moment...

Dan Savage' earlier referenced 'Delving Into the Cuckold Fetish' article was picked up by the Detroit Metro Times. When that article surfaces, I take note of the reader comments! This reply to Dan's column in the DMT shows why. 

After a rocky start, this 'wife caught cheating' story turns and goes totally right! The telling of it shows that her husband was a goner from the start. Lightly edited for easier reading.
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I have been married for 5 years. I caught her cheating early on .. which I quickly broke up and it almost ended our relationship. We worked it out. BUT...

People talk about life's 'defining moments.' This wife is having one at
this instant. Her husband too. How can it ever be the same after this?

What I saw in those 10 seconds walking in on them... slowed down in my head over the next few months.

When I opened the door she was riding his huge dick.... fucking the holy shit out of him... 

When I came in, I saw her from her ass and back angle. The dick she was fucking was simply huge. And yet she took all of him. 

I Remember ... 

'...I remember her bouncing hard!'
'... Her back ... hair... ass ...  sweated so profusely .... it honestly looked as if someone poured a glass of water down her back....'
'... the bed was soaked.'
'... her screaming "fuck me!"'' 
... MY WIFE... riding a dick.... talking dirty....in my bed.'

Thoughts that Hound You ... 

'I would think about that day in and day out... I jacked off to that scene probably 100 times. I would jack off at work, jack off while she slept next to me, jack off in the shower .... my wife ... that dick ... my bed...'

'We'd have sex... That image would come to mind and BANG .... I was done! I couldn't hold it after remembering that .... Not even for 20 seconds ....

'I had to tell her that I wasn't upset with her... that I wanted her to continue fucking men... Finally I talked her into letting me watch one time. One time turned into weekly planning. Soon she started planning on her own. I fell in love with humiliation and chastity. She rather took over the Dominant role.'

'My question is, she now told me she wants me to watch her with my co-workers and my closest friends...Her desire to humiliate me is strong and I enjoy it. But is this too far?'

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Some Observations ... 

Sure, the sex that he saw was very intense; but so was his reaction to what he saw. And that reaction was sustained long term.

It wasn't just the shock of his wife with another man. It was that the sex itself was so shockingly powerful, shockingly sexual, and above all, so shockingly different.

For the first time, he got to see his wife having sex from a third person perspective. And what he saw was sex that was excruciatingly sexual and unimaginably beautiful.

The intensity of it and her complete abandonment to his huge penis, was shocking. She more than succumbed; she surrendered completely. She ravished herself on his huge endowment.

And she did this early in their marriage.

Cuckold's Journey Begins...

That's telling in itself. But see what it did for this husband! He ended their session very quickly, yes, but nothing about this event ended there.

Oh no, that was only the beginning.

Month after month after month, he 'lived in the moment' of what he saw! He could not stop it. He could not escape it. He could not ignore it. He could not curb it. He could not contain it in some corner of his mind.

Instead, the power and intensity of that moment worked in him. It did not diminish in strength but grew and increasingly controlled him. It became irresistible.

Most astonishing of all is the WAY this changed his thinking, wants, desires and needs!

It Was the Defining Moment...

Years later, he recalls and describes that instant with the same, vivid clarity as when he opened the door and saw it for the first time. Every minute detail burned into his memory indelibly.

Everything. Changed. Forever.

This was a defining moment. The instant he saw his bride plunge herself on that huge penis, it was a 'done deal.' Now it was just a matter of time and processing.

Returning him to that same scene day in and day out, his own mind continually made him a voyeur to his own cuckolding!

What he first saw as profane act very quickly became a holy ritual, one that commanded and elicited his helpless arousal and acknowledgment, and utterly worshipful surrender.

The Strangest Thing...

That scene affected his sex life with his wife. It did not make him impotent but hyper-sexual. It demanded and received his unqualified and urgent participation. It redefined his psycho-sexual response.

He admits that he could not help ejaculating prematurely. It dominated his imagination, MAKING him see and relive that scene over and over and over again endlessly. It made him fantasize incessantly, aroused him continuously, excited him uncontrollably and DROVE him to masturbate with furious compulsively.

It happened morning, noon and night, day after day, week, after week, month after month. His wife, that penis, his bed. He was helpless to stop it or even to try to resist it. What he saw refused to be denied. It MADE him ADMIT and SUBMIT to cuckold desire.

Whatever else he MIGHT have expected, it wasn't this: that the ultimate and irresistibly compelling aphrodisiac would be none other than his wife's impalement on a huge penis!

Nature's Curious Ways...

Yet in the end, he had no choice.

Fantasizing uncontrollably, with arousal raging every waking hour, his response was beyond his control. After months and months of it, he was done. He had no fight left in him. He found that he could not live as he was. Helpless to resist, with no end in sight, he was coerced to admit that he was beaten. How else could he deal with it? 

Continuous, helpless arousal drew him into the passion and sensuality of his wife and her lover. It forced the honesty from him. It forced him to speak the truth. He had no choice. He as much as his wife acknowledged the power of the situation, and of that enormous penis -- not only over her, but over his ability to resist the meaning and image of what he saw! In the end, it reduced them both. In the end, it seduced them both.

'I had to tell her that I wasn't upset with her...that I wanted her to continue fucking men.'

What he first ended quickly become irresistible. He not only consents, he craves that other men serve his wife. He not only needs it, he ASKS his wife to continue sexing other men. Clearly, she wasn't the only one seduced. The huge penis that seduced and mastered his wife equally reduced and mastered him!

And it took all of 10 seconds.

The rest was just time and processing.

Another Beguiling Point...

Forgiving his wife's 'infidelity' was remarkable. His admission that it powerfully aroused him was right, good and courageous. But another intriguing matter needs exploration.

Her response to that huge penis brought him into a state of near constant arousal. The very extremity and constancy of his arousal became his tacit approval of her dalliances.

If her impalement on that huge penis made HIS arousal rage, on what ground can he deny her the same? He is helpless to resist the eroticism of that moment. If he takes extreme pleasure in seeing it, how can he deny HER right to the same extreme, erotic pleasure?

His arousal not only effectively quashed his capacity for effective resistance; it also took away any argument he might otherwise make against it!

So on one hand, his arousal devastated his ability to resist his cuckolding; on the other hand, it PREPARED him to first accept, and then DEMANDED that he crave it.

Ultimately, his arousal WAS his consent.

Intention and Design...

For this husband, the sheer beauty, power and sensuality of his wife and lover's indulgence was profoundly human.

'Riding his huge dick...
'fucking the holy shit of him,
'sweating profusely...
'as if someone poured a glass of water down her back...
'the bed was soaked, her screaming 'fuck me!'

He doesn’t say so, but what follows strongly implies that in those few seconds, he knew intuitively and for the first time, he was seeing sex as sex truly is supposed to be, sex as Nature intends sex to be.

And if that is true, HOW can it be wrong to say so?

Some men are seduced and tormented by the pleasures of cuckoldry in months in advance. This man walked into the experience in an instant of time. Yet he was no passive observer. In months of constant arousal, uncontrollable fantasies, continual masturbation, and arousal heightened as never before, he participated fully in his own cuckolding.

If some men achieve this pinnacle of pleasure only through cuckoldry, it is worth asking why that is so.

The Changes That Came...

She was ready for change. Did she keep sexing men after her husband walked in on them? We're not told, but it seems so. Earlier, he said:

'I had to tell her that I wasn't upset with her... that I wanted her to continue fucking men.'

Note: He’s not asking her to 'start' but to continue. Then there is this:

'Once I talked her into letting me watch one time.'

Again, it isn’t ‘DO this one time,' but let him WATCH one time. Most likely, she kept sexing men even after he saw. She was empowered to continue with our without hubby's approval! And Nature saw to it that he soon caught up. It just took him some time.

Transfer of Power...

Sharing his sexual power with this wife, the stud greatly empowered her over her husband. A one time request to watch became a weekly thing. And note: the HUSBAND who ASKED to watch, and SHE who DECIDED.

'Once she started planning on her own, I fell in love with humiliation and chastity she rather took over the dominant role...'

The strong likelihood is that she continued her personal, sexual development. She quickly widened her sexual experience and knowledge, and discovered new preferences that she would never otherwise explore.

She loved what other men taught her, and what she learned, she practiced with her husband, including humiliation and chastity.

She now wielded the sexual power in their marriage.

Returning to Intention and Design...

But there is still that question: why is it that some men achieve their pinnacle of pleasure only through cuckoldry? And the implication is absolutely fascinating! 

Note well -- at the same time SHE is gaining sexual experience, knowledge and power from well-endowed lovers, the SAME experience reduces him to chronic arousal, ceaseless masturbation and compulsive fantasies of that huge penis taking his wife!

The very thing that empowered her AT THE SAME TIME reduced him to helplessness! What readied her to dominate prepared him to submit. Again, it happened AT THE SAME TIME.

This is absolutely fascinating.
It is utterly beautiful.
It is extremely erotic.

Nature knows what it's doing.

Whatever one believes about evolutionary biology, these dynamics do work in many cases. And while funded research may not [yet] support it, such dynamics seem to exist with such regularity as to allow for this reasonable hypothesis:

Nature Intends This...

This little blog is read by people around the world. Sometimes as many as 500 visit its pages in a month. Cuckold curiosity and desire crosses many cultures and societies. Many men desire and even CRAVE to be cuckolded, even as it terrifies them. Why?

They desire cuckolding because millions of years of evolutionary biology incline them to it. Sex is vital for the survival of the species. Husbands desire it because they're supposed to desire it as part of Nature's intention to ensure the propagation of the species. 

Arousal prepares for sexual activity. Since cuckoldry so often arouses husbands suggests that the mechanism evolved to support reproductive function. But cuckold arousal in many instances induces husbands to step aside as another fulfills that function.

The question this man asked [is cuckolding with co-workers and close friends too far] may be reasonable. But there seems little chance that he escaped her wiles. His wife:

1] Loved to dominate him.
2] Strongly desired to humiliate him.
3] Had years of experience dominating him.
4] Knows how much pleasure he takes from it.

Concluding Thoughts...

While many husbands plot and scheme for years to convince their wife to take another man, some wives find themselves in the opposite role. They may desire their lover and wish they could bring their husband onboard.

If they understand the dynamics, and if they cooperate, a wife and lover can groom and shape a husband to be cuckolded. As they two work together, a husband's power is limited and his options are few.

Women gain much IF they know how to bring that desire to the surface of their husbands' consciousness. When HE desires this, the result is a win-win-win.

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Do you envy what this wife was able to do? Have you ever wanted more than your husband gives? Have you ever wondered what you're missing? Do you wish that you had the sexual power to do what she did, or that your husband would agree to this arrangement?

Whatever your thoughts on cuckoldry, do you feel that this is what sex is supposed to be? Can you be satisfied with less and not resent it at all? Did this post arouse you enough to make you wet? How do you think your husband would react to this article if he saw it?

Have you ever 'tested the waters' with him in any way? If so, how did this go? Were you ever pleased by attention from another man? If your husband knew, how did he react

Has your wife ever cuckolded you? Do you wish she would? Did you ever share this with her? Would you show her this post? Do you wish you could share it with her? If your wife read this post, how do you think that she would react? If your wife had this experience, how would you react? Could you do 'better' than this man? Or are you in a situation now?
 

Comments and discussion are welcomed.  
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Why Does My Husband Want Me to Have Big Cock Sex?

Nothing is on the internet permanently. Sadly, the blog from which today's article is taken exists no longer. But here and there, a few posts were saved and submitted by other parties. Written by 'Hottie' and her husband, Steve, today's post is one such offering. All the text is original, but bold, red text was added for emphasis.
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by 'Hottie'

From Insecurity and Jealousy to Acceptance

'When my husband first revealed that he fantasized about wanting to watch me having sex with a well-endowed man, I was quite naturally surprised by his admission.  Prior to his small penis acceptance, Steve was somewhat insecure and jealous, and then, when he accepted his smallness, it’s as if a new “enlightened” Steve emerged from his shell. It took me awhile to adjust to this sudden and complete change in him.  But, I love the “new” Steve.'

Small-Endowed Men Especially Susceptible!

'I knew some men fantasized about wanting to watch their wives with other men, but one of the things that has become abundantly clear and fascinates me to no end, is just how many small-endowed men crave this same fantasy. And, they don’t just want to watch their wives having sex with another man; they want the other man to be supremely more endowed and even better in bed. The fascinating question that must be asked is why do so many small-endowed men harbor this fantasy? 

Why Do They Want It?

Many men on this blog, including Steve, have expressed this desire, but what we haven’t delved into was the why?  What drives and motivates them to crave this so much?'

'Because we have a good relationship, we have explored this topic together and had many enlightening conversations about it. I have to confess, I do love talking about this subject.  We both know it turns Steve on, but we wanted to know why it’s such a turn on for him.  As a result, we have developed a hypothesis as to why the idea is so appealing and exciting for him.  We believe it’s a combination of both a natural and biological reaction.  Let me explain.'

Instinctively Knows We Deserve More

'Steve already knows he has a small penis and accepts it. I know he has a small penis, but when I remind him of that fact, it really, really turns him on. As he has explained previously, it’s as if he knows instinctively that I deserve a man who has a more satisfactory cock size.  Some women on the blog have admitted that their husbands are too small to satisfy them, but their previous lovers, and now their larger dildos provide what their husbands can’t. For these couples, they have discovered that size does matter.

He Needs This

While our relationship is different in that Steve can satisfy me even with his very small penis, his internal truth is that he believes I could be even better satisfied by a larger male, who could offer me what he can’t.  We both believe his reaction is quite natural.'

'We have also discussed several articles and books on a wide variety of sexual topics.  Sexual selection and how we evolved as humans to live in groups was extremely interesting. We have also discussed Dr. David Ley’s book, “Insatiable Wives” which is excellent and describes the biology of women and their sexual needs.

Nature Intends It

Dr. Ley, also has a blog, “Why Women Stray,” where he also addressed the issue of sperm competition as follows:  “As Christopher Ryan, author Terry Gould, and researchers Baker and Bellis have suggested, there is a biological response playing out here, that affects a male sexual drive.  After watching their wife with another man, the husband is prompted biologically to have longer, more vigorous sex, has a shorter refractory period between erections, ejaculates harder, and his ejaculate contains more sperm.  Nearly every couple I interviewed told me that after an episode of the wife having sex with another man, the couple felt like they were “in heat.”'

He Can't Help It!

'What they described is exactly what happens to Steve every single time I use a dildo to pleasure myself. It may not be another man, but his strong reaction to it is almost identical and unbelievable. Even at the mere site of my dildo, Steve’s penis goes from 0 to 4 throbbing inches in a heartbeat. So is his response a biological reaction? We believe it may very well be both natural and biological, and this may explain why he craves it so much…he simply can’t help it.'

'Of course, others may feel it isn’t natural or biological at all, but whatever it is, this craving lies at the very heart of the small penis teasing, cock comparisons and fantasy cuckolding that so many small endowed men crave as well. Honestly, I didn’t get it at first.  I mean, why would a man want his partner to compare his underdeveloped penis with that of another male who is substantially more endowed? Wouldn’t he be ashamed, embarrassed or even humiliated? 

The Bigger the Stud, The Better Hubby Likes It

Surprisingly, the answer is quite the contrary for small endowed men; he usually becomes incredibly aroused. What’s even more fascinating is, the greater the size disparity between your husband and the male you are comparing him to, the more aroused he becomes, which I believe, cements the notion (in his mind) that you need and deserve more cock than he has.'

'Those of you who have been following this blog for any length of time know that I love my husband’s small 4” penis and am quite satisfied by it.  But, have I been fascinated by the descriptions women have provided on this blog as far as the advantages of big cock sex?  Yes, which is why I posed the recent question on the blog, “What am I missing?”  My hubby and I both find it fascinating.   Will I ever try a large one knowing it would turn my husband on if I did?  No, because I would never risk our relationship to try it, and we are both very comfortable with that decision.   It’s intriguing and fascinating, but I would never try it.  But, because I was curious, I encouraged my hubby to order his “Big Boy Cock” extension, to see what that feels like.  Granted, it wasn’t the real thing, but I have to admit I really enjoy it.  And of course, Steve really, really liked it too!'   :)

'To summarize, we do feel there is something very natural and/or biological that explains Steve’s strong reason for wanting this, but that may not be the case for you, or you may attribute your desire to something entirely different. So, how do the rest of you feel?  Do you believe the reason why smaller men crave this fantasy is a natural and/or biological response?  Or, do you attribute it to something else entirely. We’re sure others who peruse this blog will be curious to read your comments.'