Fanning Smoldering Cuckold Desire Into Flame

Being a man is more than having a penis.

Honesty, truth and disclosure play their own part. Manhood also means knowing and sometimes admitting one's limitations. Admission of inadequacy and declaration of need implies vulnerability And for some men, that in turn can mean facing their worst fears. As much as they may desire and truly need complete honesty, some men simply cannot be vulnerable and truthful. Not even with the one they love most in life. In fact, especially not with her.

For many a man with an undeveloped penis, it can be a solitary horror to discuss sexual issues with his wife. Certain matters assume 'official secret' status. He is loathe to admit his most intimate issues with 'her;' much less has he strength actually to discuss such things in detail. Instead, he wallows in secret inhibition and insecurity. 

Still, the temptation to openness and honesty with his wife is strong! But even as honesty tempts disclosure, fear and insecurity gnaw his resolve, paralyzing him in inaction. Try as he may, many a small man 'jams' when trying to host this conservation. No matter how much he wishes it, or how how hard he may try, he can never be honest about his desires with his wife. And as he can never be honest, he cannot mature sexually, and their sexual relationship cannot progress.

'...one of the things that has become abundantly clear and fascinates me to no end, is just how many small-endowed men crave this same fantasy. And, they don’t just want to watch their wives having sex with another man; they want the other man to be supremely more endowed and even better in bed. The fascinating question that must be asked is why do so many small-endowed men harbor this fantasy?'

The small-endowed man knows that his inability to discuss intimate matters with his wife is unmanly to the extreme. Yet he will not repair this because he cannot. Most likely, he neither wants to stop it, nor CAN he, since his cuckold fantasies compel an extremely powerful erotic response. These dynamics work together making it impossible for the small-endowed man to escape this conundrum. Consequently, it eats at him relentlessly.

Cuckold desire sticks. Once truly beholden to it, men don't abandon it. They do not shake this fetish. It is extremely addictive to them. Knowing this, some women put this knowledge to very good use. So do some well-endowed lovers who want to seduce and bed married women. They have even been known to elicit an under-endowed husband's perspective and help in delivering up his wife to be seduced by the stud.

Understanding these dynamics, some wives resolve their husband's dilemma for him. They broach the subject FOR their husbands. Then they arouse him with these thoughts in order to seduce and elicit his ardent consent for her to take a very well-endowed man.

Well-endowed men understand this.

So do other wives married to Mr. Little.

Do you?
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If you are a wife who wishes you could broach this with your husband, how do you feel about the fact that many small-endowed men share this fantasy?

If you are a small husband, is the fetish_suppression/fetish_arousal conundrum the irresistible temptation that draws you in time and time again, gradually wearing you down and eliciting your internal consent for your wife to experience the pleasure she deserves?

Desperate with Desire, Tormented by Timidity!

For husbands with secret, cuckold desire based on their diminutive penis, sexual honesty requires admitting three truths.

1] Your reluctance to tell your wife of your desire touches on your DEEP insecurities.

2] Your wife’s discovery of your cuckold desire would be a HUGE relief for you!

Fearful Insecurity ... HUGE Relief. Fearful Insecurity ... HUGE Relief.

You NEED to Tell Her

Deep down, many small husbands want and need to come clean and level with their wives about this cuckold need. As one small husband said:

‘I'm 42 and married. My wife has never discussed penis size with me but I'd love to (we'd have to be pretty wasted).

She has no idea that I'm the guy hugging the porcelain in public restrooms because my size is "la puny mushroom."

Do I look? Of course! And every so often, I'm shamed, exhilarated, validated-WHATEVER- by a glimpse of much more than I'll ever have.

What would my wife think or say if she knew that I peek compulsively and am insecure? I wonder. I’m thinking of telling her (a bit at a time) to get her reactions and comments.  Any suggestions on how to do it?’

Yes. But for now, read what another guy said when asked... “would you dare to show your wife internet pix of guys in the ‘wonder of nature’ class, and see where that leads?”

His reply?

‘The thought turns me on now but my wife has never seen or touched another cock but mine; what if she really got curious after seeing pics of ones bigger than me? Plus she might tease me afterwards. I would like to somehow maybe get her to see a few pics though just out of curiosity.'

See how boys with tiny toys talk?
In just a few lines, we get…

She has no idea...

We’ve never talked about it...

The thought turns me on but…

What if she really got curious...

Shamed, exhilarated, validated...

I would like to somehow maybe...

What if she teased me afterwards...

Any suggestions on how to tell her…

I want her reactions and comments...

Pix...just a few...to see her reaction…

Never talked about…but I’d love to…
I compulsively peak and am insecure...

I’m thinking of telling her–a bit at a time...

Sense a little insecurity here? 

Compulsive fascination? 

Anguish? 

Many small-endowed men are consumed by fantasies of being cuckolded. They fantasize of their wife with a man who has a truly man-sized penis.

He DREADS Your Discovery!

Many small husbands want desperately to explain their cuckold desire with their wife. But they're also terrified at her potential reaction!

What if she teases me–-isn’t that just like a little boy!

What if she saw a real man and “got really curious?”

Well so what?

So what if she "got really curious?" Small men certainly are! And it's not by decision or choice. It's extremely and inescapably erotic for them. It's a reaction. It is completely compulsory. Many men are utterly helpless to 'turn it off.'

So on one hand, it's fine for Mr. Little to be consumed by such thoughts and desires. But Mrs. Little isn’t supposed to know that he has huge issues with his tiny penis?

Why the hypocrisy? Why the double standard?

'Oh but if she knew how men are, what other men are like, how could I compete?'

That's the kicker. Why?

It’s because having a small penis does weird things to a man’s mind. But why shouldn’t wives know this? 

Just so small husbands won’t be able to hide their little secret any longer, let’s list some of those issues here.

That way, wives everywhere can read and learn what small husbands think and fantasize about constantly, but are loathe to admit and won’t tell her otherwise.

• A small penis makes many men feel deeply and shamefully unmanly.
• A small penis makes many men keenly aware of their sexual limitations. 
• A small penis makes many men feel awed by and respectful toward very well-endowed men.
• A small penis makes many men highly susceptible to cuckold fantasies.
• A small penis makes many men extremely aroused by thoughts of their wife being seduced.
• A small penis makes many men extremely aroused when they see their wife potential cuckolding him.
• A small penis makes many men very submissive when well endowed men interacts with his wife.
• A small penis makes many it impossibly difficult for many men to be sexual honesty with his wife.
• A small penis makes many men vulnerable to his wife's sexual direction.
• A small penis makes many men vulnerable to helping a well endowed man seduce his wife.

Note well -- a small penis MAKES under-endowed men feel these things. So many times, they simply can't help it. They're powerless NOT to react those ways. So often, it’s as if their small size programs them to accept it.

Most husbands will act decisively if another man makes overtures toward his wife. But if a man he knows is virile and very well-endowed approaches her, a small husband’s issues can very powerfully sabotage his ability to intervene and stop his own cuckolding.

Some have watched, paralyzed in wonder, envy and deep admiration, as a stud expertly and effortlessly took charge of his wife’s sexual response right under his nose. To Mr. Little, this is like seeing sex as it is supposed to be. He feels it i inappropriate to intervene. And often, his own arousal rages out of control as he watches her beautifully seduced, while he himself is helpless to act to stop it.

At the very least, his ability to 'protect his interests' may be very seriously sabotaged.

There are several reasons for this.

1] He may be so overwhelmed by submissive feelings that he can mount no real or effective resistance. The power and eroticism of the moment washes out his masculine energy. He senses that Nature intends for him to step aside and allow a very well endowed man to fulfill this purpose by giving his wife what he cannot give her. Some small men feel this is what the well endowed man is supposed to do. Because he can.

2] He may fear provoking a sexual contest that, as an under endowed man, he can only lose. He may fear being 'outed.' If he tries to stop it, the stud may shame him for his inferiority and inability to satisfy his own wife. He may point Mrs. Little to hubby’s tiny erection, explain his cuckold desire to her, and use that to seduce her. And if he says Mr. Little obviously wants her to compare erections? Mr. Little may decide that non-resistance is his 'safest' bet.

3] To his own amazed horror, Mr. Little may be deeply aroused! And it’s all quite remarkable. A stud effortlessly bypasses Mrs. Little’s boundaries. Mr. Little sees it. But just when a strong, decisive, masculine reply is needed, he instantly floods with powerful feelings and emotions of fear, envy, astonishment, insecurity, anxiety, fascination, intrigue, submission, respect and more.

Confused and disoriented, a lifetime of insecurities rise to demand resolution, while his astonished eyes fixate all his attention on what is happening in front of him! He has no time to process anything, no idea how to act or what to do. And he discovers that he is powerless to do anything. So he watches in complete helplessness as the well endowed man plies his wife’s sex and makes her desire mount.

The under endowed husband can’t compete, can’t deny his arousal, and can’t stop this seduction. He is desperate to see it and learn as the well endowed man passes boundary after boundary. He remains passive as the well endowed man arouses his wife and does as he wants.

Endowed men and small men alike have long understood these things. When they discover them, the wives of under endowed men are greatly empowered.

Stuck Between Insecurity and Relief

Men with tiny sex organs are hyper-aware of their sexual limitations. This relates is their complete lack of courage to discuss this with his wife. But that very timidity confirms his shame and sense of a lack of manliness.

This leads to an intriguing question. It's one that small-endowed husbands ought to consider. This is unless you're the wife, and then maybe YOU should ask it: 

With which is it easier to live:

• Fearful insecurity with no escape OR
• Risk with a potential for HUGE relief?

Tiny husbands often want desperately to share their feelings with the woman they love. But they are terrified to start that conversation!

Typically, such guys not only NEED this discussion, they deeply BELIEVE all these things. But he fears his wife may take real offense at his feelings. He fears she won't take this seriously. And he fears that she will take it very seriously.

Under-endowed men know that their small penis issues translate into immense, sexual power for wives IF they understand the issues. Whether or not wives use this knowledge, just knowing it gives wives enormous sexual power. That puts small men in a powerful, erotic bind.

On one hand, he craves for his wife to be a sexually powerful woman. That arouses him supremely! But he is also terrified that she'll put her new-found discoveries to the test! Her exploring his issues will arouse him more! That flaming arousal in turn predisposes him to ACCEPT her continued exploration of his issues, and seeking well endowed men for mind-blowing sexual pleasures.

The combination of fear and burning desire is extremely erotic for under-endowed men. This circle of fear and arousal confirms everything he believes about his own inadequacy. That makes his beliefs even more compelling and real! The husband with a childishly small penis is caught in multiple submissive and erotic binds from which there is no escape. 

He can't give women what well-endowed men do because he doesn't have it to give. He believes it's natural and almost inevitable that well-endowed men pair with powerful, sexually aggressive women. Yet the idea of a powerful, sexually aggressive wife enthralls him. No matter what he does, he can't shake these feelings and dynamics. 

He desires desperately to discuss this. But timidity cows him into silence. He craves it, yet recoils from it. It's tormenting and very unmanly. And astonishingly, it's due entirely to his having a tiny penis.

Wouldn’t honesty be easier?

Wouldn't honesty be better?

Why not get this into the open and be done with it? 

And really, shouldn’t wives know? Most know or suspect anyway.

It's Time to Act

Why prolong this with the "thousand hints" path? Isn't this "official secret" a heavy burden? Why agonize endlessly over a little penis?

Men loathe compulsive insecurity. The only manly way forward is to move from fearful insecurity to disclosure. And that would be a HUGE relief. Small men must face this hurdle to mature in their manhood. There IS no other way forward.

This brings us to the third truth required of little guys with secret, cuckold desires.

3. Honesty means being man enough to tell her about your cuckold fantasy!

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Touch any nerves? Do you know that should read this? Suppose your wife discovered this page. Would you find this a little unsettling? Would you be aroused by it? Imagine finding this on the computer screen and her asking your thoughts on it. Imagine getting an instant erection, and her asking you to explain what that meant.

Again, suppose that a man who finds your attractive wife attractive reads this blog. Why wouldn't he email her the link to this page? Or perhaps you WISH someone would send her that link, because you HAVE to discuss this -- but jam EVERY time you try to raise it.

In the end, there is this about the 'small penis as an official secret:'

• Staying where you are isn't manly.
• It disgusts you, and rightly so.
• Chances are, she'll be better with it than you.
• You ache for this HUGE relief.

So what is your next move? Why not post a reply?

Why Does My Husband Want Me to Have Big Cock Sex?

Nothing is on the internet permanently. Sadly, the blog from which today's article is taken exists no longer. But here and there, a few posts were saved and submitted by other parties. Written by 'Hottie' and her husband, Steve, today's post is one such offering. All the text is original, but bold, red text was added for emphasis.
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by 'Hottie'

From Insecurity and Jealousy to Acceptance

'When my husband first revealed that he fantasized about wanting to watch me having sex with a well-endowed man, I was quite naturally surprised by his admission.  Prior to his small penis acceptance, Steve was somewhat insecure and jealous, and then, when he accepted his smallness, it’s as if a new “enlightened” Steve emerged from his shell. It took me awhile to adjust to this sudden and complete change in him.  But, I love the “new” Steve.'

Small-Endowed Men Especially Susceptible!

'I knew some men fantasized about wanting to watch their wives with other men, but one of the things that has become abundantly clear and fascinates me to no end, is just how many small-endowed men crave this same fantasy. And, they don’t just want to watch their wives having sex with another man; they want the other man to be supremely more endowed and even better in bed. The fascinating question that must be asked is why do so many small-endowed men harbor this fantasy? 

Why Do They Want It?

Many men on this blog, including Steve, have expressed this desire, but what we haven’t delved into was the why?  What drives and motivates them to crave this so much?'

'Because we have a good relationship, we have explored this topic together and had many enlightening conversations about it. I have to confess, I do love talking about this subject.  We both know it turns Steve on, but we wanted to know why it’s such a turn on for him.  As a result, we have developed a hypothesis as to why the idea is so appealing and exciting for him.  We believe it’s a combination of both a natural and biological reaction.  Let me explain.'

Instinctively Knows We Deserve More

'Steve already knows he has a small penis and accepts it. I know he has a small penis, but when I remind him of that fact, it really, really turns him on. As he has explained previously, it’s as if he knows instinctively that I deserve a man who has a more satisfactory cock size.  Some women on the blog have admitted that their husbands are too small to satisfy them, but their previous lovers, and now their larger dildos provide what their husbands can’t. For these couples, they have discovered that size does matter.

He Needs This

While our relationship is different in that Steve can satisfy me even with his very small penis, his internal truth is that he believes I could be even better satisfied by a larger male, who could offer me what he can’t.  We both believe his reaction is quite natural.'

'We have also discussed several articles and books on a wide variety of sexual topics.  Sexual selection and how we evolved as humans to live in groups was extremely interesting. We have also discussed Dr. David Ley’s book, “Insatiable Wives” which is excellent and describes the biology of women and their sexual needs.

Nature Intends It

Dr. Ley, also has a blog, “Why Women Stray,” where he also addressed the issue of sperm competition as follows:  “As Christopher Ryan, author Terry Gould, and researchers Baker and Bellis have suggested, there is a biological response playing out here, that affects a male sexual drive.  After watching their wife with another man, the husband is prompted biologically to have longer, more vigorous sex, has a shorter refractory period between erections, ejaculates harder, and his ejaculate contains more sperm.  Nearly every couple I interviewed told me that after an episode of the wife having sex with another man, the couple felt like they were “in heat.”'

He Can't Help It!

'What they described is exactly what happens to Steve every single time I use a dildo to pleasure myself. It may not be another man, but his strong reaction to it is almost identical and unbelievable. Even at the mere site of my dildo, Steve’s penis goes from 0 to 4 throbbing inches in a heartbeat. So is his response a biological reaction? We believe it may very well be both natural and biological, and this may explain why he craves it so much…he simply can’t help it.'

'Of course, others may feel it isn’t natural or biological at all, but whatever it is, this craving lies at the very heart of the small penis teasing, cock comparisons and fantasy cuckolding that so many small endowed men crave as well. Honestly, I didn’t get it at first.  I mean, why would a man want his partner to compare his underdeveloped penis with that of another male who is substantially more endowed? Wouldn’t he be ashamed, embarrassed or even humiliated? 

The Bigger the Stud, The Better Hubby Likes It

Surprisingly, the answer is quite the contrary for small endowed men; he usually becomes incredibly aroused. What’s even more fascinating is, the greater the size disparity between your husband and the male you are comparing him to, the more aroused he becomes, which I believe, cements the notion (in his mind) that you need and deserve more cock than he has.'

'Those of you who have been following this blog for any length of time know that I love my husband’s small 4” penis and am quite satisfied by it.  But, have I been fascinated by the descriptions women have provided on this blog as far as the advantages of big cock sex?  Yes, which is why I posed the recent question on the blog, “What am I missing?”  My hubby and I both find it fascinating.   Will I ever try a large one knowing it would turn my husband on if I did?  No, because I would never risk our relationship to try it, and we are both very comfortable with that decision.   It’s intriguing and fascinating, but I would never try it.  But, because I was curious, I encouraged my hubby to order his “Big Boy Cock” extension, to see what that feels like.  Granted, it wasn’t the real thing, but I have to admit I really enjoy it.  And of course, Steve really, really liked it too!'   :)

'To summarize, we do feel there is something very natural and/or biological that explains Steve’s strong reason for wanting this, but that may not be the case for you, or you may attribute your desire to something entirely different. So, how do the rest of you feel?  Do you believe the reason why smaller men crave this fantasy is a natural and/or biological response?  Or, do you attribute it to something else entirely. We’re sure others who peruse this blog will be curious to read your comments.'