Loneliness and the Small Penis

Bringing Your Wife into the Discussion:

True loneliness is more than lack of socialization. It is being unable to share your secrets.

Some time ago, one man posted this on the internet.

'I'm 42 and my wife has never discussed penis size with me. I'd love to (but I’d need us both to be pretty wasted). She has no idea that I'm the guy hugging the porcelain in public restrooms because my size is la puny mushroom. Do I look? Of course! And every so often, I'm shamed, exhilarated, validated-WHATEVER- by a glimpse of much more than I'll ever have.'

'What would my wife think or say if she knew that I peek compulsively and am insecure? I wonder. I’m thinking of telling her (a bit at a time) to get her reactions and comments.  But how can I even begin to do this?'

Another husband facing bedroom performance issues elsewhere posted that his wife routinely hears from girlfriends how much they loved sex. But she didn't see the point of the fuss. Instead, he kept hearing ‘you’re soft’ and ‘you’re not in me’ when he was in very firm and inside her.

This husband was asked point blank: ‘have you told her, “it’s likely my small penis.”’

Guess what! He hadn’t. He was then asked this:

“Would you dare to show your wife internet pix of guys in the "wonder of nature" class, and see where that leads?"

 This was his reply:

'The thought turns me on now but my wife has never seen or touched another cock but mine; what if she really got curious after seeing pics of ones bigger than me? Plus she might tease me afterwards. I would like to somehow maybe get her to see a few pics though just out of curiosity.'

 See how little guys talk? Putting those two posts together, we get In just a few lines …

She has no idea...

We’ve never talked about it...

The thought turns me on but…

What if she really got curious...

Shamed, exhilarated, validated...

I would like to somehow maybe...

What if she teased me afterwards...

Any suggestions on how to tell her…

I want her reactions and comments...

Pix...just a few...to see her reaction…

Never talked about…but I’d love to…

I compulsively peek and am insecure...

I’m thinking of telling her–a bit at a time...

I wonder what she’d say/think if she knew...

Insecurity, compulsive fascination and anguish! These husbands -- like many under-endowed men -- are consumed by fantasies of their wives with truly man-sized penises!

They want desperately to discuss this with her, but they are terrified at her potential reaction! But what if she teases me–isn’t that just like a little boy! If she knew what men are like, how could he compete? What if she saw a real man and “got really curious?”

But why shouldn’t their wives be on-board with the discussion? It’s a legitimate turn-on for both of these husbands. Yet they’re terrified to include their wives in it. What hypocrisy!

There’s more.

If a small penis leaves your wife frustrated, these are truly lousy reasons for keeping her in the dark about the likely cause. Any man willing to let his wife’s sex life run substandard just to hide his tiny tool needs to start respecting her!That means facing the issue and having the discussion.

These husbands reveal what many small-endowed men desire. Deep down, they need and long to come clean and level with their wives about their “little” secret.

After all – nothing is lonelier than being unable to share your secrets.

Are you man enough to do it? How manly is it to accept a life of loneliness just to hide a tiny penis?

If you are a wife, are you waiting for this discussion? Would you support your husband to do this?

One Look, One Question – and it was Over!

Gaining the Cuckold's Cooperation

For many modestly endowed husbands, the presence of a very well-endowed man near his bride creates a conundrum. On one hand, this represents his greatest fear. On the other hand, it is also his deepest desire. There is no escaping it!

 

For many small men, this situation washes out their ability to resist their own cuckolding by the well-endowed male. It begs to be asked, 'WHY!'

In a similar story Cuckoldrix Awakening remarked:

‘Many men want this. Oddly, men may want it without being aware that they do. Many certainly need it even if it takes a little encouragement. Others are ready to release exclusive claim to their wife needing only that the whole matter be taken out of their hands.’

Here, yet another cuckold confirms this. With preparation in place, it happens so easily and naturally! Readers may find that with each story, their own perspective and life path becomes clearer. This post has been lightly edited to improve reading. The story line and material content remain unaffected.
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For the past 3 years of marriage I never had any thought of watching my wife getting fucked by another man. But I have to be honest that I've gone to sites on the internet and read stories about the cuckold lifestyle. Anyway a year ago, I went to the health spa and met this guy and we became friends.

We talked a lot about what we looked at on the internet and of course it was sex sites. I told him that I really liked the cuckold story sites.

I guess he got the wrong idea because he thought that I wanted to become a cuckold. So he started talking about fucking my wife. Every time we saw each other at the spa he would come over and ask me when I was going to invite him over to my house to seduce her.

I have to admit that this was getting to me. He just assumed that with half an opportunity, this would be. I thought this was just him joking. But over time, the whole idea of this plus his obvious willingness was starting to affect me. His confidence, sincerity and ease got me thinking that given any chance, he could and really would make it happen -- very easily and very naturally. He was starting to turn me on to the idea.

Then I found out about what was behind that easy confidence.

''One day I went into the bathroom and he followed me. I expected him to ask what he always did, and when was I going to take him to our place to watch him seduce my wife. In the moment I waited, he looked around. Then when he saw that we were the only ones there — and to my astonishment— he just pulled out his cock!

A loud, involuntary gasp betrayed my dismay. I was staggered! In one instant, I knew that he wasn't joking, and that he would seduce my wife. So did he.

By my reaction, we both knew that I acknowledged and understood that soon, he would be having sex with my wife. He was completely serious. He was going to make this happen and seduce her.

As my mind and emotions reeled, he knew what was happening. He knew exactly what to do. He gave me several long, long moments to process this. Everything he'd said over the past year about seducing my wife came crashing back into mind. I heard all of it again. Everything hit me like a ton of bricks. 

But now, I wasn't just hearing. I was seeing. And just seeing what he was so ready to unleash on her, and knowing where it would go, made me feel faint. At the very least, he was a full, nine inches, and that was with him dangling, completely flaccid! Now, I understood.

My heart pounded uncontrollably in my chest as I internalized the weight of this situation and where I knew it led. I breathed fiercely as I first anticipated and then accepted what would be. As I surrendered to this, my strength turned to water.

He read me perfectly. And after what seemed like an eternity to me, he finally broke the silence:

'Don't you want to watch your wife enjoying this?'

My heart was still pounding and I was visibly shaking already. But at that, that, my already wobbly legs nearly buckled beneath me.

My obviously very powerful response was undeniable. So I did the only thing that I could do. I was honest.'

I told him 'YES!'

'So he followed me home and he met my wife.'

From the onset, he was one, very smooth talker. With only very minimal help from me, he seduced my wife. It took him just one month. I did get to watch. I was amazed at how aroused it made me just to watch him fuck her with his huge dick. It got me really, really turned on! But that wasn't all!

What most surprised me is that she wasn't on birth control! But still, she not only fucked him eagerly -- she even let him bareback her repeatedly. And she let him cum inside her every single time!

As you would guess, this went on, and so in a few months, he made her pregnant.

I didn't plan on this, but I guess that it's my fault.'
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But is any 'fault' at issue here?

Yes. A friend, supposedly 'jokingly' offers to seduce his wife. Hubby is fine with that. Yet so soon as opportunity puts the stud's virile manhood on display, that was it! One look, one question -- and it was over! The husband's ability to resist collapsed.

So he willingly served up his own wife. With a little coaching and a few weeks, it was done. She was his. She took this studly manhood over and over and over -- with eagerness! He even barebacked her.

But this was neither the first nor the last time.

Plenty of wives and husbands are astonished by this reaction when a powerful, well-endowed male is available for a wife. In that existential situation, husbands instantly and powerfully react with extreme arousal, submissiveness, and many other emotions. Ditto for their wives.

This seems to say less about 'fault' and more about Nature's intention for us -- if we can be that honest.

And that comes closer to the point.

Somewhere, someone on the internet posted words to the effect that...

‘Nature has seen fit to endow relatively few with these oversized, superior sexual tools, giving them certain advantages and power over others. Whether you want to admit it or not, huge cocks inspire fear, awe, lust, timidity, helplessness and other powerful feelings in women and smaller men. One way or another, big cock will get what it wants.’

‘Ours is not to wonder why - we can only accept nature's choice and follow our own natural impulses to submit and worship. Jesus said, 'to he who has much, much more will be given.’

When Nature shows its ways to us, perhaps it is better simply to embrace what is given.

A Cuckold is Made -- One Man's Story:

This was posted  years ago on a forum that is now defunct. But its lessons remain relevant today.
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Spotting the Competition ...

Bill had always shown an interest in my wife--even before I was into the Hot Wife thing.

My wife and I were visiting her cousin in Salt Lake. While we were there, her cousin's husband, Bill, and I went to the YMCA to play some racquet ball. As size goes, I’m near average length but am well on the thin side of the ledger (I’m at the bottom 20% according to the "definitive penis survey"). That’s especially so after I exercise. At that time, I have a very small flaccid penis.

After play, we hit the men’s hot tub. As I got in the tub, Bill got that "cat that swallowed the canary" smile. As I say, he was always interested in my wife. But once he saw my tiny pecker, he pursued her very aggressively! I honestly think that as soon as he saw it, Bill knew that my wife was his for the taking. I say so because he made his play right away. In fact, he was so confident that he put the moves on her that very night.

Your wife is the prize. He sizes up the competition. You!

We spent that evening watching a couple of movies. Bill did things like pulling her down on his lap when she walked past him. In fact she sat on his lap for one whole movie. Every time she got up to do something, she would return right to his lap. At the time, both his wife and I thought this was innocent flirting. But I learned later that she was stealing touches of him the whole night. That was when and how my wife found out Bill has a very thick cock.

Conveniently, my in-laws lived in Scottsdale, and my wife decided that she had to try on Bill's thick cock for size. It ended up that Bill had several sessions fucking my wife over about a three week period when he was doing some business traveling to Phoenix. She thought she was going to keep me from finding out, but Bill confessed to her cousin. That caused a divorce between them.

I learned about this while tidying the desk. I found a letter to my wife from her cousin. She was trying to reconcile their relationship two years after the divorce. I actually had a hunch of what happened, and the letter confirmed it.

When this came out, my wife was ripped with guilt. She told Bill and he began making advances for my wife to leave me for him. And even though she was very sorry, she was definitely very, very tempted, so much so that I nearly lost her. Thankfully, she had admitted that thicker is definitely better. So I knew what was drawing her to Bill.

The turning point came one night when I agreed that it was OK by me if she took a hung lover (so long as she stayed with me). That did it. The next day she rebuffed Bill (for which I am very thankful) and we stayed together. But every time we fuck, all I can think of is her enjoying his thick cock. That fantasy is soooooo hot!

That is what caused me to be a hot wife lover. My favorite part of it is when she home from being fucked with that ‘ha ha—I got the best of you and had fun doing it’ smile on her face, and I absolutely love her for it.

The Expectant Cuckold

Size and the Expectation of Cuckoldry

Questions have a way of getting at things. They reveal deeply believed assumptions, expectations, doubts, fears, desires and dreams. Some questions are especially fascinating because our responses to them can reveal our strengths, weaknesses and inward inclinations. This is especially so if one is pushed to total openness and honesty. In fact it's quite amazing how completely life can be changed with a question followed by an honest discussion or confession.

Say that a heavily endowed man is very attracted to your wife. He also knows that you're sexually underdeveloped. Do you see this as one more guy who wants your wife, OR is the situation different simply because the man who wants your wife is very well endowed and he knows you're not?

Example:

Is an under-endowed husband apt to assume that this endowed man ...

Is pleased to know that her husband is so small?
Sees his wife differently because of this?
Wonders how satisfying her sex-life can be?
Thinks his wife more likely can be seduced?
Will be emboldened to explore her sexual availability?
Can ‘smell success’ with his wife sexually?

In short, can a husband with diminutive sex organs expect well-endowed men 'in the know' to decide to seduce his wife?

Moreover, will this husband with diminutive sex organs ...

Assume that this stud is experienced with women?
Assume that this man means to seduce his wife?
Imagine the stud and his wife as sex partners?
Imagine his wife responding very differently with him?
Experience angst when this endowed male is near her?

In short, can a husband's underdevelopment cause deep angst, paralyzing timidity, fear of humiliating exposure, or even extreme arousal, so that he watches helpless to intervene as a very well-endowed man takes his wife?

The interesting thing about such questions and associated feelings and emotions is the very potent role they can play in preparing the husband to participate in his own cuckolding!

Many a small-endowed husband is convinced that his diminutive size makes his wife susceptible to cuckolding, that Nature intends for this to happen, and that Nature has very well endowed men because they are supposed to press that advantage to seduce, pleasure and seed their wives.

Why wouldn't well-endowed men awaken this angst, fear, emotion and arousal to put little guys off balance, and to begin guiding his response so that despite himself and because of himself, the small husband begins to participate in his own cuckolding? The well-endowed man has everything to gain.

That is exactly why such questions are so disturbing, powerful and arousing for the small husband. They are powerful because they touch what the under-endowed husband believes is utterly true.

He is an expectant cuckold.
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Speaking of the potent role of questions and discussions, imagine that both the very well-endowed male and the wife of the under-endowed husband together questioned him on such things.

If you have thoughts or experiences to share, you are welcome to do so.

If anything stirs some response in you, leave a note in the comment section.

It Matters ...

It Matters...

In poetic form and with compelling expression, rougedmont's blog shares how and why the male anatomy matters.
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it matters more than you think it does

women are afraid to state their preference

because our vagina’s are designed for diversity

the average adult vagina is 3-4 inches long

when it is un-aroused, un-lubricated, un-inspired

3 to 4 inches long in our natural and flaccid state

we elongate to beautifully expand our pleated folds

to comfortably accommodate both girth and length

of the erect and aroused phallus looking to penetrate us

our depth can vary between women to take 8 to 12 inches

before our cervix would be bruised from his thrusting

we can shorten our depth depending on sexual position

we can make a tighter fit with strong pelvic floor muscles

even though childbirth will alter things forever to different

we are built to comfortably encase a well endowed man

when we are excited and aroused ourselves

the more excited we get, the bigger the man we can take

yet even a flaccid vagina can accept the barely felt intrusion

of a man who can’t even fill you when bored and uninterested

the ache of un-fulfillment throbs with your uterine contractions

as you orgasm and are still left wanting something deeper

something wider to allow your body to respond as it was meant to

Could you make and live with this decision?

letting your vagina hold onto the thick pulsing cock in a death grip

of pleasured milking sensations and suctioning wanted intrusions

instead of having the tactile sensation of internal pressure devoid

from your partners lack of endowment when you are aroused

it matters more than most women will admit

for fear of hurting feelings or making size a priority

especially if you know exactly what you are missing

when you decide to settle for a small cock sexual experience
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Sisters: Is rougedmont's last point a mistake you made? What would be your thoughts to your best girlfriend if she asked you about these things?

A Woman's Fantasy, In White, Cotton Briefs

White Cotton Briefs ...

Sparing no puritanical minds, Rougedmount's smoldering fantasy beautifies the object of her desire, and vindicates her desire for it.
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god… it’s so absolutely, perfectly, brilliantly deliciously divine, seeing a well endowed man in his cotton underwear. seeing the plain of his stomach, the slightly increasing fur as it disappears downwards into the band. the delineation, the curves, the swelling definition of his concealed endowment is almost more than i can take.

If honesty is a virtue, should not women be honest?

my mouth salivates after going dry. i instinctively swallow and lick my lips after biting them. it is virtually impossible to raise my eyes or look elsewhere as the perfectly packaged mound of his flesh is right there. almost touchable. my imagination is flying into every naughty thing i have ever seen or witnessed, as i envision myself taking him.

a band of white, a delicate veil that hides nothing and showcases everything while maintaining a modesty that is irrelevant considering all that it exposes to my eager eyes. i can see his resting shape and imagine him in the full bloom of arousal. i see the curved perfection of his softest and most vulnerable sack, tightly held front and center as if he was at the height of arousal.

i can imagine him elongating, swelling and taking shape beneath my heated gaze. tenting the material until it is threadbare and provides a shadowed low light of definition which highlights his arching pillar which is striated with a myriad of veins and ropy topography. the indentation of a plumed head almost makes me breathless, as it’s heart shape inspires my pulse to race.

with everything i have seen, in truth, i have actually seen nothing and his modesty is intact, his virtue upheld by the meagerest of thread counts. as much as his appearance in his briefs has impacted me, he is in fact covered. it is only in my mind that he is also covered by my mouth, my hands and my body as i force his physical response into turgidity and a resulting tumescence as his arousal seeps through the cotton in a perfect damp spot of desire.
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The pretense of an untainted mind, or courage to speak honestly -- which is virtuous?

Women who embrace their desires and affirm the beauty of them are welcome to offer their thoughts for a post. Be vindicated.

The Cuckolding Fetish: When Your Wife’s Cheating Turns You On

Some husbands like to watch their wives cheat. Welcome to ‘cuckolding,’ a taboo fetish that is far more common than you might think. 

Imagine hearing your wife whisper in your ear, telling you all the naughty things she did with a coworker in the backseat of your car. Instead of getting jealous, it turns you on. 

 

Maybe you enjoy the idea of how desirable your wife is. Or maybe you want to watch while she cheats on you, taunting you, forcing you to get involved in humiliating ways.

Again, welcome to “cuckolding,” a taboo fetish that is far more common than you might think.

 
By definition, of course, a cuckold is the “husband of an adulteress.” The phenomenon itself is nothing new (see the works of Shakespeare or Chaucer). It might even be considered universal, since dozens of languages have a term that refers to it. Today’s cuckolding fetish, however, takes the deception and betrayal out of cheating—both partners are in on the secret.

While the average person may think the idea of sharing a spouse is horrific, the NASCA (North American Swing Club Association) estimates that at least 15 percent of married couples have opted for the swinger lifestyle. While swinging isn’t exactly cuckolding, the idea of willfully sharing a partner remains. According to Dr. Paul Abramson, a professor of psychology at UCLA and lead singer of Crying 4 Kafka, “Traditional American heterosexual relationships are built on monogamy. Cuckolding would thus be relationship suicide. But for relationships that have different boundaries, the impact might be trivial.” He says that if 50 percent of all marriages end in divorce, cuckolding can’t be the only thing to blame.

According to the General Social Survey conducted by the National Opinion Research Center, 19 percent of men and 14 percent of women admitted (key word: admitted) to having an extra-marital affair. Those statistics make sense considering the popularity of cheating websites like AshleyMadison.com that tout over 8 million members (that’s roughly about 2.5 percent of the U.S. population). Technology, of course, makes it easier to have a discreet affair.

Take Tinder, the newest hook-up craze. Download the app, find people within a certain radius, and swipe left or right based on whether you think the person is attractive. While the exact amount of booty calls generated by Tinder is impossible to pin down, Tinder founder and CEO Sean Rad told TechCrunch that the app witnesses 3.5 million matches along with 350 million swipes a day. And how many of those people are already in a relationship? Infidelity isn’t always the death of a relationship. For some, it seems to be a spark.

Infidelity isn’t always the death of a relationship. For some, it seems to be a spark.

Some believe that cuckolding is really just exposed infidelity. In some ways, it spices up a sex life without the added guilt of cheating. While this fetish isn’t for the insecure, it’s certainly not for monogamists. (It’s definitely not for me [i.e., Aurora Snow]).

Isadora Almen, a licensed psychotherapist and board certified sexologist, says that the cuckold phenomenon cannot be explained any more than someone’s desire for bosomy blondes or being spanked. It’s an individual kink, one that she’s been answering questions about since the ‘80s. Almen says a man wouldn’t feel like he was a victim. Instead, he might think of himself as “particularly generous in seeing to his woman’s pleasure.” She adds a warning: “I wouldn’t recommend it as a sex therapist for spicing up one's love life. It could lead to jealousy and resentment. It’s pretty out there for most people and in many cases it’s the woman who is resentful and not the man whose kink it is.”

It’s not always about acting out a fantasy, sometimes it’s enough to just watch. Mean Cuckold is the highest selling DVD producer and director Glenn King has ever released. King says people are bored with regular sex. “Cuckolding is a way to humiliate a slave or explore sexuality," he says. "Infidelity is just performing the physical act of cheating on your spouse. You could say though, that infidelity is one way to cuckold a submissive.”
The act of cuckolding can often be filed under the female domination tab, as is evident in King’s series. There are three types of cuckolded men: the submissive, forced bisexual, and the voyeurs. “Submissives are into humiliation,” King says. “They fantasize about being degraded and humiliated by a beautiful woman. Second, you have guys who want to be pushed into exploring their darkest fantasies: forced bisexuality. They want to be pushed by their mistress into doing things they would never do, like worshipping another man. Then lastly, we have voyeurs, who just enjoy watching their lover get pleasured by another man. And to take it a step further, for those older males who grew up in the South, watching your woman have sex with a black man is absolutely shocking.”
If cuckolding is just another kink, like BDSM, why do so many shy away from ever mentioning it? Almen says it’s really all in the definition. “Cuckolding has always had with it the element of shame,” she says. “It really points the finger of shame at a man whose woman would go outside the relationship.” 
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My husband told me to sleep with another man

Some years ago, a woman posted about her experience on the Dear Cupid forum. That resulted in a number of replies, which will not be posted here. Her experiences stand and they are what they are. Perhaps readers have some insight or similar stories to share.  Without changing meaning or details, this story has been edited for readability.
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My husband of two years gave me permission to have sex with other men. I did not ask

him for this. One day while we were raking the yard, he just told me. Why when we were raking the yard? Wouldn't the bedroom be a better place? Well, my husband marches to only his drum.

My husband was my first boyfriend and my first lover. I felt abandoned, unloved and told him so. His answer was that sooner or later, I would want sex with someone else. He didn't want me to feel pressured to cheat and put our relationship at risk. He said that he would rather that my need be fulfilled without guilt.

I told him I would never do it. But after thinking for six months or so what it would be like with this or that cute guy, I told my husband I wanted to have sex with a guy from the gym. He asked how I felt about it. I told him I loved him dearly but he has been the only sex partner I have had, and I would like to know what sex is like with someone else.

Arrangements were made and we met at a motel. I felt scared, but it turned out to be pretty nice. I felt a little guilty afterwards. When I got home, I told my husband about it and asked him if he still felt alright about this. He said everything was fine. Since then, I have had sex with three other men.

I feel much sexier and more confident about myself. Is this what a person is supposed to feel? I am pretty happy about this, and I don't see any difference in my husbands feelings towards me.

I want to see more men over the years. I like this. Is this the way it is for most women? Do other women feel this kind of satisfaction? Is my husband right for letting me do this? I know our lifestyle is different. But will he be harassed if someone finds out?
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Has your husband expressed willingness to allow you to experience pleasure from another? What might your reaction be if he did and why?

Have you wanted to share such things with your wife? If so, what happened? If not, why not? What holds you back?