Desperate with Desire, Tormented by Timidity!

For husbands with secret, cuckold desire based on their diminutive penis, sexual honesty requires admitting three truths.

1] Your reluctance to tell your wife of your desire touches on your DEEP insecurities.

2] Your wife’s discovery of your cuckold desire would be a HUGE relief for you!

Fearful Insecurity ... HUGE Relief. Fearful Insecurity ... HUGE Relief.

You NEED to Tell Her

Deep down, many small husbands want and need to come clean and level with their wives about this cuckold need. As one small husband said:

‘I'm 42 and married. My wife has never discussed penis size with me but I'd love to (we'd have to be pretty wasted).

She has no idea that I'm the guy hugging the porcelain in public restrooms because my size is "la puny mushroom."

Do I look? Of course! And every so often, I'm shamed, exhilarated, validated-WHATEVER- by a glimpse of much more than I'll ever have.

What would my wife think or say if she knew that I peek compulsively and am insecure? I wonder. I’m thinking of telling her (a bit at a time) to get her reactions and comments.  Any suggestions on how to do it?’

Yes. But for now, read what another guy said when asked... “would you dare to show your wife internet pix of guys in the ‘wonder of nature’ class, and see where that leads?”

His reply?

‘The thought turns me on now but my wife has never seen or touched another cock but mine; what if she really got curious after seeing pics of ones bigger than me? Plus she might tease me afterwards. I would like to somehow maybe get her to see a few pics though just out of curiosity.'

See how boys with tiny toys talk?
In just a few lines, we get…

She has no idea...

We’ve never talked about it...

The thought turns me on but…

What if she really got curious...

Shamed, exhilarated, validated...

I would like to somehow maybe...

What if she teased me afterwards...

Any suggestions on how to tell her…

I want her reactions and comments...

Pix...just a few...to see her reaction…

Never talked about…but I’d love to…
I compulsively peak and am insecure...

I’m thinking of telling her–a bit at a time...

Sense a little insecurity here? 

Compulsive fascination? 

Anguish? 

Many small-endowed men are consumed by fantasies of being cuckolded. They fantasize of their wife with a man who has a truly man-sized penis.

He DREADS Your Discovery!

Many small husbands want desperately to explain their cuckold desire with their wife. But they're also terrified at her potential reaction!

What if she teases me–-isn’t that just like a little boy!

What if she saw a real man and “got really curious?”

Well so what?

So what if she "got really curious?" Small men certainly are! And it's not by decision or choice. It's extremely and inescapably erotic for them. It's a reaction. It is completely compulsory. Many men are utterly helpless to 'turn it off.'

So on one hand, it's fine for Mr. Little to be consumed by such thoughts and desires. But Mrs. Little isn’t supposed to know that he has huge issues with his tiny penis?

Why the hypocrisy? Why the double standard?

'Oh but if she knew how men are, what other men are like, how could I compete?'

That's the kicker. Why?

It’s because having a small penis does weird things to a man’s mind. But why shouldn’t wives know this? 

Just so small husbands won’t be able to hide their little secret any longer, let’s list some of those issues here.

That way, wives everywhere can read and learn what small husbands think and fantasize about constantly, but are loathe to admit and won’t tell her otherwise.

• A small penis makes many men feel deeply and shamefully unmanly.
• A small penis makes many men keenly aware of their sexual limitations. 
• A small penis makes many men feel awed by and respectful toward very well-endowed men.
• A small penis makes many men highly susceptible to cuckold fantasies.
• A small penis makes many men extremely aroused by thoughts of their wife being seduced.
• A small penis makes many men extremely aroused when they see their wife potential cuckolding him.
• A small penis makes many men very submissive when well endowed men interacts with his wife.
• A small penis makes many it impossibly difficult for many men to be sexual honesty with his wife.
• A small penis makes many men vulnerable to his wife's sexual direction.
• A small penis makes many men vulnerable to helping a well endowed man seduce his wife.

Note well -- a small penis MAKES under-endowed men feel these things. So many times, they simply can't help it. They're powerless NOT to react those ways. So often, it’s as if their small size programs them to accept it.

Most husbands will act decisively if another man makes overtures toward his wife. But if a man he knows is virile and very well-endowed approaches her, a small husband’s issues can very powerfully sabotage his ability to intervene and stop his own cuckolding.

Some have watched, paralyzed in wonder, envy and deep admiration, as a stud expertly and effortlessly took charge of his wife’s sexual response right under his nose. To Mr. Little, this is like seeing sex as it is supposed to be. He feels it i inappropriate to intervene. And often, his own arousal rages out of control as he watches her beautifully seduced, while he himself is helpless to act to stop it.

At the very least, his ability to 'protect his interests' may be very seriously sabotaged.

There are several reasons for this.

1] He may be so overwhelmed by submissive feelings that he can mount no real or effective resistance. The power and eroticism of the moment washes out his masculine energy. He senses that Nature intends for him to step aside and allow a very well endowed man to fulfill this purpose by giving his wife what he cannot give her. Some small men feel this is what the well endowed man is supposed to do. Because he can.

2] He may fear provoking a sexual contest that, as an under endowed man, he can only lose. He may fear being 'outed.' If he tries to stop it, the stud may shame him for his inferiority and inability to satisfy his own wife. He may point Mrs. Little to hubby’s tiny erection, explain his cuckold desire to her, and use that to seduce her. And if he says Mr. Little obviously wants her to compare erections? Mr. Little may decide that non-resistance is his 'safest' bet.

3] To his own amazed horror, Mr. Little may be deeply aroused! And it’s all quite remarkable. A stud effortlessly bypasses Mrs. Little’s boundaries. Mr. Little sees it. But just when a strong, decisive, masculine reply is needed, he instantly floods with powerful feelings and emotions of fear, envy, astonishment, insecurity, anxiety, fascination, intrigue, submission, respect and more.

Confused and disoriented, a lifetime of insecurities rise to demand resolution, while his astonished eyes fixate all his attention on what is happening in front of him! He has no time to process anything, no idea how to act or what to do. And he discovers that he is powerless to do anything. So he watches in complete helplessness as the well endowed man plies his wife’s sex and makes her desire mount.

The under endowed husband can’t compete, can’t deny his arousal, and can’t stop this seduction. He is desperate to see it and learn as the well endowed man passes boundary after boundary. He remains passive as the well endowed man arouses his wife and does as he wants.

Endowed men and small men alike have long understood these things. When they discover them, the wives of under endowed men are greatly empowered.

Stuck Between Insecurity and Relief

Men with tiny sex organs are hyper-aware of their sexual limitations. This relates is their complete lack of courage to discuss this with his wife. But that very timidity confirms his shame and sense of a lack of manliness.

This leads to an intriguing question. It's one that small-endowed husbands ought to consider. This is unless you're the wife, and then maybe YOU should ask it: 

With which is it easier to live:

• Fearful insecurity with no escape OR
• Risk with a potential for HUGE relief?

Tiny husbands often want desperately to share their feelings with the woman they love. But they are terrified to start that conversation!

Typically, such guys not only NEED this discussion, they deeply BELIEVE all these things. But he fears his wife may take real offense at his feelings. He fears she won't take this seriously. And he fears that she will take it very seriously.

Under-endowed men know that their small penis issues translate into immense, sexual power for wives IF they understand the issues. Whether or not wives use this knowledge, just knowing it gives wives enormous sexual power. That puts small men in a powerful, erotic bind.

On one hand, he craves for his wife to be a sexually powerful woman. That arouses him supremely! But he is also terrified that she'll put her new-found discoveries to the test! Her exploring his issues will arouse him more! That flaming arousal in turn predisposes him to ACCEPT her continued exploration of his issues, and seeking well endowed men for mind-blowing sexual pleasures.

The combination of fear and burning desire is extremely erotic for under-endowed men. This circle of fear and arousal confirms everything he believes about his own inadequacy. That makes his beliefs even more compelling and real! The husband with a childishly small penis is caught in multiple submissive and erotic binds from which there is no escape. 

He can't give women what well-endowed men do because he doesn't have it to give. He believes it's natural and almost inevitable that well-endowed men pair with powerful, sexually aggressive women. Yet the idea of a powerful, sexually aggressive wife enthralls him. No matter what he does, he can't shake these feelings and dynamics. 

He desires desperately to discuss this. But timidity cows him into silence. He craves it, yet recoils from it. It's tormenting and very unmanly. And astonishingly, it's due entirely to his having a tiny penis.

Wouldn’t honesty be easier?

Wouldn't honesty be better?

Why not get this into the open and be done with it? 

And really, shouldn’t wives know? Most know or suspect anyway.

It's Time to Act

Why prolong this with the "thousand hints" path? Isn't this "official secret" a heavy burden? Why agonize endlessly over a little penis?

Men loathe compulsive insecurity. The only manly way forward is to move from fearful insecurity to disclosure. And that would be a HUGE relief. Small men must face this hurdle to mature in their manhood. There IS no other way forward.

This brings us to the third truth required of little guys with secret, cuckold desires.

3. Honesty means being man enough to tell her about your cuckold fantasy!

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Touch any nerves? Do you know that should read this? Suppose your wife discovered this page. Would you find this a little unsettling? Would you be aroused by it? Imagine finding this on the computer screen and her asking your thoughts on it. Imagine getting an instant erection, and her asking you to explain what that meant.

Again, suppose that a man who finds your attractive wife attractive reads this blog. Why wouldn't he email her the link to this page? Or perhaps you WISH someone would send her that link, because you HAVE to discuss this -- but jam EVERY time you try to raise it.

In the end, there is this about the 'small penis as an official secret:'

• Staying where you are isn't manly.
• It disgusts you, and rightly so.
• Chances are, she'll be better with it than you.
• You ache for this HUGE relief.

So what is your next move? Why not post a reply?

'You May Call It Cheating, But We Don't

Ada Calhoun is a New York City based freelance journalist. Her September 14, 2012 article for the New York Times shows her to be an able writer who is open toward and conversant with modern relationships. Her article is reproduced here 'as is.'
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MY husband and I have been together for 12 years. We talk throughout the day. We like each other a lot in addition to being in love. We plan to be together for the rest of our lives. I feel profoundly lucky.

Yet one night this summer when my husband was out of town, a male friend stopped by for a drink. After our second drink, I kissed him. He started to kiss me back, and then stopped.

“We shouldn’t do this,” he said. “I should leave.” After a few ambivalent minutes, he made his way to the door. He knows and likes my husband, and was afraid, he said, that if things went any further he wouldn’t be able to look him in the eye.

The strange thing, though, is that my husband would not have objected.

I’m embarrassed to say that, because it evokes the specter of those ’70s key parties where people espoused free love, groped strangers in hot tubs and lectured others about how monogamy isn’t “natural.” (As if that means anything. Living indoors isn’t natural, but we aspire to do that, too.)

My husband and I are monogamous. There has just always been a small asterisk where I am concerned: under certain circumstances, he is not disappointed if I don’t follow the letter of the law.

Maybe it would be different if I had taken advantage of this freedom by going further than kissing a couple of other people in the past decade, or if I had ever lied to anyone, or if I tended to develop overwhelming feelings for other men. (That did happen once before we were married; my crush on a co-worker ended up being miserable for all of us.) But as a rule, being honest about this has made us feel like more of a team, and even improved our sex life.

It may seem eccentric that my husband has translated the common fear of being cheated on into enthusiasm for the idea, but he’s not alone. Type “cuckold” into a pornography search engine and you’ll be greeted with countless scenes in which people play out that exact fantasy.

In an anthology edited by Susie Bright, who blogs about sex, one woman said: “It surprises me to no end that the sexual fetish of cuckoldry, once thought of as a disability, could be shared by so many people. The cuckolding fetish has an element of surprise, along with a bittersweet emotional masochism. Another key to the fetish, from the perspective of the cuckold, is that of eroticizing as a defense mechanism.”

I’ve always associated adventure with sex. I’d had sex with more than twice as many people as my husband before we met and became immediately exclusive (when we were young by New York standards: 24 and 25). I slept my way around Europe as a teenager, and am sometimes wistful for the ability to leave situations the second they became complicated. To me, countries and boyfriends were similar. You visited, enjoyed the view until you didn’t anymore and then left. A friend once called me a “man-izer.”

Because of this, my husband has at times fretted that I might leave him. What should he do with that anxiety? Maybe eroticizing it isn’t the worst strategy, especially if it gets us talking about what turns us on and keeps us in the loop about each other’s lives. Surely it’s better than the more mainstream reactions to jealousy: becoming paranoid or controlling.

Meanwhile, what should I do with my attraction to other men, especially to this one handsome friend? I knew the technically proper route: I should have pushed him out of my life as soon as I realized I was drawn to him. I shouldn’t have e-mailed him so much. I certainly shouldn’t have made plans to see him alone, at night.

And yet, being married to someone who likes that you want other people (and that they want you) muddles the question of whether to have that late-night drink. If the goal of avoiding extramarital temptation is to protect your marriage, but you have been led to believe that occasionally giving into temptation could be O.K. for your marriage — possibly even good for the home fires — what should you do?

Maybe every so often, when someone comes along who’s especially appealing, and who seems to understand your situation and respect it, and whom your husband for whatever reason does not feel threatened by, you kiss him. Then the next day, you feel alternately thrilled and ashamed; and then when your friend doesn’t immediately respond to an “Are we O.K.?” text, your shame tips into despair.

Years ago, my husband told me he had fallen in love with someone else. He was deeply confused and scared by it. I didn’t even know who he was talking about; that’s how much of a secret he had kept his growing feelings. When he told me who it was, a co-worker, I felt as if I had been shot. I broke things. I threw him out. He ended the affair. Since then, I’ve forgiven him, and we’ve worked hard to figure out why it happened and what it meant.

The main thing that helped me get over the affair was realizing that attraction to other people isn’t necessarily a sign your marriage is bankrupt. In the course of being together forever, especially if you’re out in the world meeting new people, it happens. One of the challenges in a marriage, in addition to deciding whose job it is to do the dishes and how to balance the budget, is to figure out how to deal with lust or love for other people.

ONCE when I worked at a tabloid newspaper, an editor stood up in the newsroom and shouted: “Stop the presses! Sometimes people have sex! And sometimes they even have sex with people they’re not married to!”

Snarkiness aside, he had a point: if cheating is so common (research puts it at 40 to 76 percent of marriages), why are we so surprised and scandalized by it? Why don’t we talk more realistically about how to avoid it, or to even experiment with the idea that maybe there could be some way for it to be safe?

Some married friends of mine have a no-tell policy. They are ostensibly monogamous but have an “if you cheat, please don’t tell me” rule. Some of these friends have had affairs they plan on taking to their graves. Other couples I know have had flings and then confessed without imploding their marriages. Among those that did split, it was typically because they had lost touch with each other, and affairs were one result.

“Infidelity doesn’t kill a relationship,” a therapist told me. “Indifference does.”

Of course, infidelity can lead to indifference, because it distracts you from your partner.

That’s why, green light or no, extramarital flirting can be stupid, unpredictable and cruel. That was the argument made by two of my closest friends.

One said I should think more about the feelings of the other man. “He’s risking more than you, in a weird way, because he’s opening up more,” he said.

“When people are married,” the other argued, “and they zoom in and out of other people’s lives while staying married, they end up hurting others. I think it happens every day, these infidelities, but there is a cost. A lot of people, including me, would pass on the hot encounter to avoid getting hurt. People are not as rational as all that, and that’s why we end up having these encounters, and also why we get hurt, but I think that is part of it: part of the appeal and danger.”

But maybe salvation is possible after such lapses in judgment. The only other person I’ve kissed in the course of my marriage, in the messy wake of my husband’s affair, is still around. In fact, he’s the above-mentioned friend who said, “He’s risking more than you.” Our friendship was weird for a month or so afterward; then it recovered.

When I look at old diaries, I see a pattern going back to sixth grade: attraction comes on like a flu. Then, eventually, the fever breaks. I try to remember that inevitable dissolution when in the thrall of desire, but it’s hard — like, when you are sick, believing you will be well again, or in the depths of slushy February remembering the blazing sun of August.

That night of the illicit kiss with my friend, it got late fast. Before I knew it, he and I had had drinks and snacks and covered a million topics, including the most obvious one, our mutual attraction. Which led to the kiss.

“But I don’t want to go around kissing women who aren’t available,” he said before leaving. In that moment, I thought: But I am available. Not for marriage. Not to be your girlfriend. But for something else?

Whether my being available was right or good or fair, I don’t know. But on that night, I was.
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The point that indifference rather than infidelity erodes relationships is a good one. Selfishness, refusal to compromise and to support one's spouse in other ways may also contribute to relational breakup.

A Simple Question ... And An Invitation to Discussion

Questions are curious things. Once in our heads, they make us think and think and think and think and think. They don't quit or shut up, and they just won't go away.

Questions meddle with our minds, invade our interest, kindle our curiosity, and push aside older thoughts to make room for new ideas to grow. It's as if the new ideas WANT to expand and fill the picture.

Take Dan Savage. He writes edgy stuff. His articles prod things that some people believe shouldn't be disturbed. But if there's nothing to it, why should it matter? And if there IS something to it, why run from it? If it is true, why shouldn't we discuss it?

Consider Dan's Feb 21, 2014 post for the Washington City Paper.

His title line asks, 'Why Do Husbands Like Cuckolding?' Some suggest that's something that ought NEVER be mentioned! Yet there it is, published for the world to read.

The article opens with a reader letter.

'I am a straight male, married to a woman for 25 years. Our marriage started to go sour about 14 years ago. Sex was infrequent and stultifying.'

It seems that man found another of Dan's articles on cuckoldry. He mentioned the article to his wife who asked him to read it. Discussion followed. Some would say, 'that discussion ought NEVER to have happened.' But apparently, it did.

And the dynamics in their relationship changed considerably!

Mr. Savage offers thoughts and quotes for the remainder his article. These seem to have poked and prodded another reader's mind. Elana writes the following:

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'This can work. I know of several husbands that are into this. I think it is only going to grow.

As a woman I know it is very taboo to consider this arrangement. I struggle with it my self.

It turns my husband and I on very much, but it is hard to move forward without feeling guilty, or at the least very out of place.

I think as women we need to talk more openly about this. Men for centuries have had multiple lovers.

As women why can't we?
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Elana says much in these few lines.

'This can work' shows conviction based on her own reflection and some personal inquiry. Also note the strength of Elana's own desire. She says that both she and her husband are powerfully aroused by the cuckold motif. She admits that she herself wants to do this.

That it is 'very taboo' even to 'consider' such arrangements doesn't speak against it at all. This speaks FOR it. Even though she struggles against guilt and feeling 'very out of place,' she sets herself toward it and sees it as the future. This reveals the strength of her desire. Hard as it is to 'move forward,' it's pretty clear that she is determined to do so.
 
Elana knows that it can work, and that it IS the future. How did she come to this? Likely, she discussed it with the 'several husbands' she knows -- possibly with her own husband present. Clearly, she discussed it with her husband since she knows that he is very aroused by it just as she is.

But the key that will determine all this is the simple, undeniable fact that both she and her husband are extremely aroused by it. For them, this arises naturally as they explore their sexual lives. That's why the naysayers can't win, and why mainstream cuckoldry is inevitable. It's why more blogs, websites and clubs are devoted to it all the time.

For the awakening cuckoldrix, this can't happen fast enough!

How much better would this be if Elana DIDN'T feel 'out of place!' How much easier would it be if only she had opportunity to discuss these things in a safe, supportive environment!

And that is exactly what she wants when she says that 'as women we need to talk more openly about this.'

That is why this blog is here, however much some wish it wasn't.

This blog exists as a safe place where women, their husbands and lovers can discuss and grow new ideas about cuckoldry and related issues.

Elana notes that men have always had multiple lovers. Always. Then she asks that simple question, a question that nags, irritates and just won't leave one be:

'As women, why can't we?'

And again, I couldn't agree more!

The cuckolding idea deeply arouses Elana and her husband. Why should ostracism or censure be the price for what both Elana and her husband desire greatly?

It's not Elana – it's her would-be critics who misguidedly project their expectations and moral code onto others who are at fault. Their actions are reprehensible and disgusting. 

Elana's question encourages women to find courage to explore this aspect of their sexuality just as she has. If women are encouraged in this direction, if women are supported as they broaden their relationships, this blog will have achieved its purpose. 

Elana's question bears repeating:

'Can we at least begin discussing this more openly?'

Precisely because some attack the world's 'Elanas' for their courage, posts are reviewed before appearing here.

No women, girlfriends, husbands, boyfriends or lovers will be denigrated on this blog because they commit to exploring this aspect of our human sexuality.

And reader responses are always welcome.

Afraid to Tell Her...

This continues discussion of the preceding article by Dr. Dawn Michael at The Happy Spouse blog. That article was followed by various comments, one of which is posted here.  It has been lightly edited without permission to improve readability.
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'I discovered my wife had sex with a close friend of mine. We had planned dinner with him at our home when I got called away for work. She accidentally left her damp patties in the living room for me to discover after I got home late. I also found a slick wetness in our bed when I joined her already sleeping. They don't know I know. I got angry at first, then curious, and now I am constantly aroused by it.'

'Lately, I have to work to avoid becoming aroused when we are all together. Now what? Does that make me a cuckold? Last night he was over for beverages. He hugged her close when he arrived and gave him a nice warm and friendly kiss. There was so much sexual tension in the room. I actually tried to find ways to leave them alone in the living room for several minutes at a time.'

'The evening went on but with little more than a suggested atmosphere of attraction between them. I could tell they were ready to jump each other. When he left he thanked us for a great night then turned to her as she was offering him another hug. Wow. He actually gave her a serious hug and she gave him a longer warmer kiss. He left. She went to bed. I joined her in a few minutes. I was afraid to tell her how turned on I was from watching. But I was even more afraid that she'd see it for herself. As it was, she was asleep.'

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Here, a husband worked through his feelings related to his wife's 'infidelity' and emerged from this process with deep, sexual arousal. Ironically, he feels that he must hide his response from his wife. Does he fear that her reaction would be less than positive if she knew what caused his arousal? Or, could it be that he fears that her reaction would be very positive, that she would take charge of the direction of the relationship and leave him helpless as she became even more open with other men?

This husband's initial response to his wife's exploration is anger. But soon, that attitude evolves from anger to curiosity, from curiosity to arousal, and from arousal to continual arousal. At length, he finds himself fighting his arousal when they are al together.

It is fascinating that even though he feels sexual tension flooding the atmosphere, even though he knows that his wife is sexing him, this husband continues to receive into his home this friend who is sexing his wife.

Moreover, this husband seeks ways [multiple!] to leave his wife and her lover alone together thereby encouraging them to share affection. He has adopted the role of their facilitator. He seems further aroused by the emboldened display between his wife and this other man, and finds his proximity to his wife to be sexually stimulating for only for her, but for himself as well.

Perhaps readers have similar experiences or stories and will submit these to be posted on these pages.

Leveling with your Wife about your Cuckold Desire

How does one tell their spouse that they want her or him to take great pleasure from another partner? What if she or he doesn't react well to the suggestion? What will change? Or am I truly as ready for this as I think?

Even those who have put their fears behind them and are inflamed with desire to share their desire with their spouse will agonize over this question for years or even decades. The one with cuckold desire may see this as a thing of great beauty and tremendous power. If only there was some way to broach this!

Reposted from Dr. Dawn Michael's blog, The Happy Spouse, this article brings to the fore the compelling yet paralyzing desire to inform one's spouse of the desire to be cuckolded. It has been lightly edited without permission to improve readability.
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How to tell my wife that I want to be in a Cuckold marriage?

As a clinical sexologist and intimacy counselor, men ask for my advice on what to do about their fetishes. About 80% of the men are married. Most men with this fantasy had their fetish before marrying their wife thinking that it would go away after marrying. But it does not. 

One type of fetish that has intrigued me over the years is a man that wants his wife to cuckold him.

He has recurring thoughts and fantasies of his wife having sex with other men and getting pleasure from them. The husband is usually the one who wants to get his wife involved but he does not know how to go about telling her.

Once in a while I counsel a couple who wants to explore cuckolding together, but typically it is the man who initiates this fetish. When a wife has sex with a man other than her husband, she makes her husband a 'cuckold.' But sometimes, it is the husband who wants his wife to have sex with the other man, either in front of him or else hears about it after.

The husband derives much satisfaction from watching his wife take pleasure from another man. Typically, that other man has a larger than average penis.

Another aspect about cuckolding, is the husband needing to be shamed by his wife. One way is for her to compare his penis size with her lover, and to tell her husband that his penis is just to small to please her.

Other forms of shaming can go along with the cuckolding as well depending on the scope of the cuckolding session. Some husbands like to be tied to a chair and forced to watch, and not allowed to touch themselves while the scenario is being played out in front of them. Sometimes a wife will place a cock cage or chastity belt on the husband so that he is not able to masturbate. A wife may also spank her husband as a form of deeper humiliation and domination...

The man who has this fetish, dreams about his wife sharing it with him. But for the most part, men who approach their wives with this don't get a positive response. It either results into a fight, hard feeling or a trial period leading to disaster. Some women may be more open to it than others, but the majority will not.

Husbands have asked me as a professional about how to approach their wives with their fantasy of cuckolding, and the answer is always to have a session beforehand with me to understand how to approach his wife and her possible respond.

I will advise my male clients who are into the cuckolding fantasy is that they need to tell their wives slowly and see what her reaction is. Some women are more open to the idea of cuckolding than others but unless it is approached in the right manner often time it does not go well. The history of men telling me their stories before seeing me they did not approach their wives correctly and it closed the door for them altogether.

The fact is that once a man is interested in this form of a fetish it is hard to stop him from thinking about it and wanting to act on it!
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The above article by Dr. Dawn Michael has several reader responses. Among them, MB wrote:

'I have had this fantasy for many years, but I really doubt my wife would be interested in any manner. The thought of her being intimate and fucked by a "real man" is a real turn - on for me. I wish she was aware of my true feelings.'

That is precisely the point of Dr. Michael's article.