Sexually Compatible

Earlier, I mentioned the role of language and especially questions in the lifestyle of the awakening cuckoldrix. As that earlier post implies, reflection on observation and experience prepare us for new and different responses to ideas and situations.

No one understands a woman's mind like a woman, and among women, few are as honest or as articulate as Rougedmount. The clarity and eroticism of her writing indeed offends some sisters. But if they are honest, few even among them will remain unmoved by her words. Her emotional intelligence and sensual lucidity create offerings that resonate too deeply for women to mask. This is what we all are. And writing as she does, Rougedmount demands honesty of us. And reflection on such honesty DOES change us.

A final note. Rougedmount is not unmoved by virile, men who are not Caucasian. She acknowledged this. Knowing that consummate lovers are found among all races, what Rougedmount writes here relates to this particular fantasy.
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the perfect shaft of alabaster white and the ephemeral sheerness of thin velvet skin

smooth as silk without line or vein to mar it’s perfect arch towards his mid section

too thick to encircle with fingers on one hand the symmetry unbroken until his crown

flaring with defined ridge and supple slopes his mushroom head barely a shade darker

how can you see a perfect cock and then not expect to use it for the purpose of self pleasure


to take him in both hands as you drool spittle from darling tongue and a parted full mouth

slowly stroking and manipulating his engorged flesh to simulate the thrust of sexual union

teasing him with the tickle of long hair over skin and heavy breasts brushing up his thighs

sucking him to arouse myself until i sit up and announce to him i am going to ride his cock

and i crawl over his body press my thighs on either side of his hip and come forward


he’s too big to enter without adjustment to accommodate his steady and simple entry

breasts in his face he reaches forward to suckle the puckered and distended nipples

pulling hard with greedy suction with a grasping hand massaging fullness of flesh

he seats himself deep inside so my engorged wet labia is spread against his pubic bone


bringing sighs from both of us with the perfect fit of a thick cock inside a tight sheath


i rise to start the mindless fall and he takes the space back with consistent thrusting


steady and hard he pushes into the heat of my body and against a sensitive womb

he tops from underneath to use his shaft to stroke a clitoris and his head to pound me

instant arching arousal my body responds to his call for wild abandon as I start to burn

a low rumble of orgasm which builds like a cresting and crushing wave as i milk him

sending him spasming in throbbing release as the frothy foam is churned between us

he rides through the storm i started before him and stays hard as my pleasure outlasts

watching my reaction to his shifting hips and the position of his cock as it strokes me

sensitive, i shiver and gasp with  mewl’s of receding desire as he stirs heavily inside

breathing heavily i lift an arm to brush my hair back from my face which lifts by breasts

and brings his hands from my hips up the curve of my waist to cup their spilling weight

before sliding forward to gently pinch the areolas and pull forward to roll the nipples

sending a sparking cascade of shivers through my body as i clenched involuntarily

around his softening member, making him thrust forward and into the sensation

i opened closed eyes and returned the shy smile while his hands found the back of my head


pulling me forward to kiss my lips as he slipped from my body so I could lay beside him

reclined, reposed, relaxed in post coital satisfaction and fulfillment that good sex inspires

while many things may be lacking as far as communication or compatibility between us

this is the single area i am completely satisfied with as his thickly beautiful cock works well


i can handle a powerfully built, very well hung man with a furry chest, who doesn’t talk

his big hands and rough exterior, unsure of how to be gentle when passion flares hard

because when he forgets himself and takes me because he is seeking his own pleasure

that’s exactly how he brings me to mine with the contained violence of a strong man
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I Cheated And It Turned My Husband On

Recent generations have seen relationships undergo genuine metamorphosis.This hasn't always been easy. But increasingly it seems true for our time that alternative models can and often do work.

In this Huffington Post re-post, writer Michele Zipp speaks about her affair with another man, and the fact that her husband was also aroused by her infidelity.
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We hear about people getting turned on by weird things all the time. There are some women who get all hot and bothered when their husband cooks, and others... get excited when they learn their partner is having an affair. Hold the phone. What?!?

Marianne* is a mom of two who has been married to Joseph* for just under 10 years. Things took some sort of turn in her marriage last year when she acted out on a fantasy to have sex with a guy who has been flirting with her for some time now. He's a bartender -- how cliché, she says. She told her husband about the affair and instead of wanting a divorce, he wants her more. It turned him on. Let's let Marianne tell us more.

I feel like the luckiest woman in the history of the world. I cheated. I got my rocks off with some guy. It was fun and exciting and bad and naughty and did I mention exciting? But I didn't want to leave my husband. I just wanted some fling. Something to satisfy these intense sexual urges I was having and wasn't getting fulfilled at home. I acted on it, told my husband, and he not only forgave me but wanted to know details. It turned him on.

Maybe I should be worried but I'm not. Well, not really.

This fling I had with Jake*, the bartender at the local pub I won't dare step foot into again, was a long time coming. He has always flirted with me even when I was there with Joseph. Joseph and I had been very distant for many months when I was on a rare kid- and husband-free night out and Jake started flirting. I flirted back in a harmless way like I usually did but this time I also gave him my number. He called the next day. We made plans. We went to a hotel. Numerous times. Once a week for about two months. It got intense. I got scared. I wanted to have sex with my husband, not Jake. So I broke it off and told Joseph.

He wasn't happy. He felt sad and hurt and sorry he wasn't satisfying me. I told him how it made me realize so much and I felt awful. "No, you didn't," he said. "And that's okay." I was shocked. Joseph understood why I did it. He didn't want a divorce. He wanted me to tell him the best parts of having sex with someone else so he could please me in the same ways. It was weird at first, but I ended up telling him, little by little, more and more details were revealed. And now almost a year later, our sex life is better than it's ever been. We overcame my affair and sometimes Joseph even asks me to recount something from that time because it turns him on.

Strange? Maybe. But it works for us. And we're happier than ever.

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* Names have been changed.

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Profile of a Cuckoldress

Written from a woman's perspective, this article from the now inactive 'This Wife's Turn' blog features such candor as challenges her sisters to to find such honesty regarding their thoughts and desires.

With a strong finish, this article, 'The Profile of a Cuckoldress' admonishes us to be true to ourselves as a means of maturing and actualizing our selves.

BRAVO!
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So maybe you are at least just the teansy bit interested in this lifestyle, but just can’t shake the idea that a good and proper woman, or wife, or mother should not act on that curiosity, or even consider it.

So I want to tell you about the women who do consider the thoughts, the daydreams, and the fantasies.  The women who embrace the freedom and act on those thoughts.

I’ll start with me.

I’m a fairly curvy woman, I was built to pleasure a man. I love to know that he is hot with desire for me and my curvy parts.  I love to see and feel the physical response of  a certain body part only he has and knowing that I was able to do that to him.  Something magical happens inside me when I know that I am the object of a man’s desires.  Even if that desire is never physically realized, it is a HUGE aphrodisiac.

I love to be touched and rubbed by my partner, to feel his strong, rough, and yet soft hands on my smooth skin.  My breasts are sensitive, one of my erogenous zones. It tingles when my nipples get hard, the tingling drives me wild, makes me warm, and lustful. Sometimes in the throws of passion, if they aren’t getting enough attention, I’ll rub and stimulate them myself. I’ve been called a touchy-feely type of girl many times.
I love sex, all parts of sex; the flirting, build-up, and anticipation, the kissing, teasing, and foreplay, the penetration, being filled up, and the building of the orgasm.

How does that sound?  Does that sound too far off a ‘normal’ woman?  Does that sound so different than you?

But wait, that’s not all!!!!!

As much as I would like to say that I am a 24 hour, 7 day a week sex goddess who spends 100% of my time doing and thinking about sexual things, life does interrupt and it must be lived.  I am a regular woman, a wife, a mother, and part of a regular family.

We could be any family that you meet.  We could be your next door neighbors, the family seated next to you at church, or another family on your child’s soccer team.  I could be that new mommy at the playgroup, I could be your best customer at your last Pampered Chef party, or maybe I started the scrapbook club you so look forward to each month.  We have our jobs, friends, and responsibilities that can’t be neglected just because we want to enjoy our extra sexual fun.

Enough about me, so now what about you?  Think you might fit the profile of a Cuckoldress?

Angela Lewis, PhD, in her book “My Other Self” says yes you do!  Well, okay, maybe not you specifically, but she does say that any ‘normal’ woman could be a cuckoldress.  Her research and observations has led to some conclusions that may surprise many people.
Her full survey results can be seen from the link below, and I’ll list the high points below:

Survey Results
According to the survey, the definition of a ‘Typical” Cuckoldress:

• Well-educated
• White
• In her thirties
• In her first marriage and has been in it for at least 11 years
• Dominant in her relationship, but submissive with her lovers.
• No preference in race, but does consider penis size when considering lovers
• Still has sex with her husband.
• Separates love from sexual desire.
• Discrete about her extra-sexual fun

Some of the reasons women gave for choosing this lifestyle:

• Husband cannot sexually satisfy me
• I have a high sex drive
• I had a crush that I wanted to explore
• My husband worships and adores me and has given me the gift of having all the sex and pleasure that I deserve
• My husband is an alpha male in his life, but he willingly submits to me sexually and I love to see him lose control
•  Discovered husband is aroused by this fantasy and I enjoy the power and control

I was surprised by the lack of rules for some couples.  Here are the activities where most said they have no rules and it depends on the situation:

• Husband’s allowed participation
• Condom use – really surprising and scary to me!!!

Finally, most have agreed that cuckolding has strengthened their relationships.

I’m not trying to convince you to live this lifestyle.  It is not for everyone and should not be entered into lightly.  I want you to know that you are not some hussy or something sleazy because these thoughts are in your imagination or because you want to do this.  Don’t let this society or culture tell you want a proper wife should do. 

But if it is fear that is keeping you from doing this, then find ways to manage it.  A little fear is a good thing.  It helps us to pay attention and to consider all the costs and everything that could be changed.  But too much fear is a bad thing.  If it keeps you from being who you want to be, then talk about it with your partner.  Find baby steps that can help you overcome and manage those fears.

You have your own dreams and desires.

You shouldn’t live in the shadow of your own desires forever. You have to take that chance and make your life reflect who you really are.
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Internet Porn Is Fascinating ... Read On!

Do we look? Of course we do! When she meets a man, the first thing a woman notices are his looks. And it is said that as many as one woman in six is addicted to some form of porn. That's right. One in six.

Lest it be protested that such statistical inventions arise from aging hippies nostalgic for Woodstock era 'free love,' know that these figures were prepared from a survey published by Today's Christian Women. If anything, these are conservative numbers. Of course that reports on women who struggle with pornography. But what of more casual users?

In 2007, the Sydney Morning Herald reported that Australians were visiting pornographic websites including sexually explicit dating websites in record numbers. Of those, one in three were women.

Imagine that this one woman is your wife ...

When you wake up, she is gone!

Night after night after night, she is up late...

Reading and watching.

And what she reads and sees makes her think and think and think and think.

It arouses her. She becomes wet...sometimes very wet. It is pleasant, pleasant enough to make her want more. That pleasure convinces her of Nature's intention for her. Convinced of that, she learns to surrender to her thoughts. She begins uncontrollable fantasizing every day. 

Two nights ago, you had a huge fight over it. She cried and swore she’d quit. Now you awake at 2 am and she’s gone! Silently you walk to the computer room.

She’s totally fixated and oblivious to your approach. This is what you see. Now you KNOW. She's hooked. Don’t you just hate it? Don’t you just love it? Isn’t it the most inexplicable thing you’ve ever met?

Watching Internet Porn is Fascinating. Isn't It...

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Helpless, Erotic Compulsion

Cuckoldry is associated with feelings of shame, weakness, helplessness, trepidation, insecurity and fear. Yet guilt-fueled arousal and erotic excitement also reach exponential intensity. Men have reported spontaneous orgasms, and women have reported becoming soaked – instantly, and that merely from discussing this with her or his spouse. If Nature intends for this phenomena to lead to sexual activity, a more effective mechanism could hardly be imagined.

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In many marriages a time comes when secret yearnings cannot be repressed or ignored. Like so many ocean waves, secret thoughts or desires surface repeatedly. Time and again they are pushed back down inside from where they came. We do so out of fear of what might be – if the truth were told.

But for some, this strategy fails. It fails because no less than ocean waves that recede after each wave, those desires return with redoubled force. It may be a week or years, but that desire will return. Each time, it gathers more strength. Each time, the shock of it lessens, and the appeal of it increases. These desires seem more natural and less objectionable. With each season, these desires reward the woman or man in question with greater pleasure.

Whether you resist the cuckold fetish THIS time is irrelevant. That desire will return. It will come with renewed urgency. The naturalness, beauty, pleasure, power and eroticism will make it harder to resist. The goodness, rightness and pleasure it makes you feel erodes the ability to resist. And each time, those qualities are more apparent to us. So if not this time, then the next time, and if not then, it will be the time after that.

The sense that this is SUPPOSED to be will only grow. And there is no escaping it.

Once your wife discovers the pleasures of a fantasy lover, once this desire becomes the script that controls and drives her response, she isn’t going to change. Once your husband acquires a taste for cuckoldry, once he decides that he loves it, that’s it! It’s over.

There’s really very little you or anyone else can do to save him. 

So instead, we choose to hide these thoughts; only allowing ourselves to ponder them during moments of extreme arousal brought on by sexual fantasies of the most perverse nature. But, once in while, someone in a marriage will break the normal pattern and choose to admit the secret lusts of their heart.

And sometimes, they find that their spouse is eager finally to act upon them.
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Have you wanted that conversation with your spouse? Have you tried to host it? How did it go?