Tasting and Converting to New Things.

Raised in life-long commitment to church, this evangelical wife has heard frequent diatribes against adultery. Yesterday’s post shows a shift in attitude. As her perspective continues to change, today’s post shows a definitive break from her church rants. And her perspective and attitude shift for interesting reasons and in interesting ways.

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Evangelical Gal:

‘We are a Christian family. I was raised in the Lutheran church. I began attending my husband's non-denominational evangelical church after we married. We are raising our children in that church. Our pastor speaks about adultery frequently. Like most Christian ministers, he always points to adultery as the primary cause of the decline of the modern family. Members of our congregation who cheat on their spouses frequently become outcasts from this church. This isn’t by conscious effort, but they just receive less attention. I have always felt that this attitude was wrong. Besides, it leaves out the element of forgiveness that the church is supposed to be about.’

‘But after reading and re-reading your posts, I now object to the church's attitude for another more substantive reason. I've thought that adultery was just wrong per se. But you have shown me that it's wrong in most situations because it is selfish: the one who cheats on his/her spouse almost always puts his/her own desires before those of the spouse.’

‘But that is absolutely and completely NOT what you are doing, or what she is doing. You are going waaaaaay out of your way to elevate her pleasure and satisfaction above your own, ignoring your own altogether, and she is allowing you to experience the joy of giving freedom and excitement to her.’

‘Admittedly, this relationship could not be replicated in more than a small handful of situations, but to call what you and she are doing ‘adultery’ or to say it is wrong – much less to call it ‘sin’ – would be to ignore the utter beauty of it and to disregard your selflessness…’

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Reading and re-reading posts shows that these new ideas made sense to this wife. As her thoughts reorganized around the new things she learned, old prejudices fell away. Her view of ‘adultery’ matured, and she outgrew her church. She now ‘corrects’ her church, and does so for more than shunning adulterers or forgetting forgiveness.

Seeing ‘Cuckold-to-be’ elevate his fiancé’s pleasure and satisfaction, seeing him ignore his own satisfaction while allowing her freedom to find excitement and joy, this wife is arrested by one, inescapable fact: this arrangement between this man, his fiancé and her lover brings to the fore the very best of what marriage is SUPPOSED to be.

By implication, her church – which supposedly supports marriage – regularly regards this activity as the downfall of marriage. This woman finds that she can no longer call this ‘adultery’ or ‘sin.’ By implication, she disagrees with her church, which ignores the ‘utter beauty’ of it while disregarding this man’s selflessness.

This wife is having a second ‘conversion.’ Proof? She closes this post with:

‘…AND OH MY DEAR SWEET MOTHER OF CHRIST, the way you describe making him a part of your wedding!!! OH MY GOD!!! AS BEST MAN!!! You have hit on such a perfect and sweet and heavenly idea with that, and I can't imagine how you arrived at that, but it's incredibly beautiful, and I think it's something you really MUST do. Enjoy!!!’

This Evangelical wife has tasted new things, and she has seen that they are good.

Have you?